Another WWSND - DH job related

therickson · December 2011

DH is looking at another job with his company that would mean a significant raise but most likely require him to work weekends and possibly evenings. He wouldn't know the hours until he got a job offer and would feel obligated to take it if offered. I work long hours starting early during the week so I think we would rarely see each other. On the other hand he might get lucky and get a weekday shift, we just wouldn't know until too late to turn it down. This job could also help him move up to the next level which he really wants.

What would you ladies do? We are going to HH tonight to talk about it. I just don't know what to do! I don't want to be selfish but my husband is my best friend and I would miss him terribly!

amandasw · December 2011

I will always vote happiness over money. You mention that it "could" help him move to the next level, but is that the main reason? Will he not move up if he doesn't do this? IMO this is the best time to enjoy each other, our youth and freedom from responsibilities (no kids etc). Money helps, but if you aren't happy, it's not worth it.

We've made this decision, so I know from personal experience. We could save tens of thousands of dollars if H promised to go be a Dr in rural AK (the state would help pay some of his med school debt). However, neither of us would be happy (I would literally have nothing to do) and we decided it's not worth that. So I guess you have to weigh the options, understand all the possibilities/consequences and try to make the best decision for the two of you

CDMay2006 · December 2011

Having opposite schedules is really, really crappy. Were it were to be short term, or only a few days a week, it would be one thing, but from 9p Sunday till 4pm Thursday i don't see my husband (awake) and it sucks. It's only short-term for us, so it's doable (and maybe it's worse b/c we were living separately when i was in school, but still), but i wouldn't be willing to do it long-term.

therickson · December 2011

amandasw:
I will always vote happiness over money. You mention that it "could" help him move to the next level, but is that the main reason? Will he not move up if he doesn't do this? IMO this is the best time to enjoy each other, our youth and freedom from responsibilities (no kids etc). Money helps, but if you aren't happy, it's not worth it.
We've made this decision, so I know from personal experience. We could save tens of thousands of dollars if H promised to go be a Dr in rural AK (the state would help pay some of his med school debt). However, neither of us would be happy (I would literally have nothing to do) and we decided it's not worth that. So I guess you have to weigh the options, understand all the possibilities/consequences and try to make the best decision for the two of you

This is not really a promotion, just a move to a different department that is busier.

To me happiness is more important than money as well. I am only even consibdering it because I know he wants to move up and it is easier from this department. He would also do so well in this job!

I am so torn. We need to find out of it is long term or just 6 months or so. I could do 6 months.

karebear219 · December 2011

If it is short term (like maybe a year or so) I would go for it. I would just ask H to make a commitment to have a date night once a week and make plans too meet up during lunch breaks.

amandasw · December 2011

karebear219:
If it is short term (like maybe a year or so) I would go for it. I would just ask H to make a commitment to have a date night once a week and make plans too meet up during lunch breaks.

ditto this - if you think it's only 6 months, then that's definitely not so bad. If it was indefinite, I would have a much harder time doing it

sarack · December 2011

Honestly, if i were in your situation.. I'd tell H to go for the position. You should tell him that since he doesnt' know the terms of the promotion, he shouldn't feel obligated to take it if the hours end up sucking..

He could be lucky and get the weekday job and everything could be fabulous.

I say it's worth a shot.

I agree that opposite schedules aren't worth it.. hence why we opted for H not having a second job..

CDMay2006 · December 2011

sarack:
You should tell him that since he doesnt' know the terms of the promotion, he shouldn't feel obligated to take it if the hours end up sucking..

This is a good point.

therickson · December 2011

CDMay2006:
sarack:
You should tell him that since he doesnt' know the terms of the promotion, he shouldn't feel obligated to take it if the hours end up sucking..
This is a good point.

I wish he felt this way but he is too loyal and thinks it would be wrong. I will talk to him tonight and see if he thinks the hours would be temporary. I said 6 months because that is the soonest he could apply for another position.

I would definitely require a date n ight if he did this

jennlin · December 2011

if it's temporary, with an end in sight, definitely he should do it. the money is a nice bonus, and the promotion is what he's looking for, so i think it shouldn't be too bad. 6 months is definitely doable.

therickson · December 2011

He is gonna go for it! Might be tough for the next year but we will make it through! Now I need Nestl? vibes that he gets it!!!

jennlin · December 2011

therickson:
He is gonna go for it! Might be tough for the next year but we will make it through! Now I need Nestl? vibes that he gets it!!!

woooo!

nestie vibes for an easy interview, awesome pay, and a not-too-bad schedule!!

go mr.therickson!

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