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shuga_23 · December 2011

Hi.

So I had to leave Abe at daycare extra long yesterday because I had to travel to Saco. On the way home I was feeling super guilty. I did the math, in a normal 24 hour period I spend 4-5 waking hours with him. 4 hours is 16% of the day! Daycare gets 38%!!!!!!!!!

I hate it.

rbagsgirl · December 2011

I know its horrible the amount of time we have to spend away from our kids...I am right there with you in the I HATE IT boat...I have about the same amount of time With Josh and it SUCKS!!!

Hang in there momma and know you aren't alone in the struggle to be a working mom!!!

mesa81 · December 2011

I hear you!!! I get less than that right now, I know it may get better as she gets a bit older, but right now I get 2 hrs if that with her. I wake her up at 645 and drop her off at daycare at 725 and pick her up at 520 and she goes to sleep around 730. Last night, S was asleep at daycare when I picked her up and didn't wake up til 620 and went to sleep a little after 740.

That means I got one hour with her. And most of the time she was nursing.

cdg0819 · December 2011

Felix isn't starting daycare until Jan, but I feel the same way about our nanny... I am lucky that my schedule sometimes lets be stay home with him until 9am, and then I usually have from 4-7, but that's still only 4-5 hours most. Ugh.

MaineIslandBride · December 2011

I'm dreading going back to work and putting the baby in daycare. I have a 1 hour commute (each way) 4 days a week and also a 2 hour commute (each way) one day a week...so I'm not looking forward to being away from the baby for 10-12 hours a day while some stranger gets to spend all kinds of time with him at daycare. I have a feeling the first day back at work away from him is going to be pretty horrible.

MrsSweetpeaMagee607 · December 2011

its even worse that the boys stay with MIL most of the time... I don't want them to be closer to her than they are to me!

MrsGinka · December 2011

Awww...it's certainly not easy. I just try to make sure that the time I do have with the girls is quality time. Hang in there...

katsblaze · December 2011

MrsSweetpeaMagee607:
its even worse that the boys stay with MIL most of the time... I don't want them to be closer to her than they are to me!

My boys just started daycare 2 days a week, about 3 weeks ago. My Mother gets them the other days we need daycare. I am in the same boat, I miss them so much that I try not to do anything afterwork, so I can rush home and at least get 2 hours with them. If its a day my mom has them, sometimes I don't see them before I leave for work.

meganinmaine · December 2011

Hang in there. To be fair though (and maybe make yourself feel better), you're comparing the time you spend with him during waking hours to the entire 24 hours. So the time you spend with him is 16% of the entire day, but I bet it's more like a third or a half of his awake time. Still not great, but hopefully makes you feel a little better - if he sleeps for ten hours at night and then takes two long naps during the day you're getting a lot more of his awake time than 16% makes it sound.

Sorry to get all statistics-y on you. I imagine this kind of thing is really tough. I just don't want you to make yourself feel worse by comparing apples and oranges.

I hope this wasn't too kick-her-while-she's-down. Just, don't worry about the numbers and enjoy the time you have completely. *hugs*

MA&CB · December 2011

I know, I've totaled in disbelief the number of hours he spends with us including nights and weekends (we sound like a cell phone plan) vs. daycare...and it's always pretty darn close or a little more time without us. It is depressing, but what can we do! I do especially hate pick-up with the time change; it feels even worse somehow picking him up in the dark. But eventually he'll spend his days at school, and I won't think twice about it or feel guilty about it, so I just have to think of this time apart the same way, I guess.

AnnieME · December 2011

I won't and can't do the math! (hey, I teach kindergarten, not high school!

)but yes, it's pretty sad when you sit and think about it. Nolan is at daycare most days from 7:45-4:30. This is why Joe and I have always kept him up a little later than most babies his age - that, and my child is a night owl like me. And also why I still rock and rock and rock him to sleep.

I feel like it's the most special time of the day I share with him. It's also very comforting that Nolan ADORES his daycare provider and his friends there. She even sends me pictures of him throughout the day. Pulls on the heartstrings, but love that she shares pieces of his day with me. I look forward to every evening, weekend, vacation and summer with my boy. All you can do is make the moments count.

jd72878 · December 2011

I try not to think about it. If I could afford to stay home, I might. But we can't, and I don't want to put that kind of pressure on Tim. It's hard to think about Abby spending so much time away from me, but I try to think about how much fun she's having with her friends. And I agree with Annie, you just have to make the moments you ARE together count. I think that's why I'm up so late doing other chores.

cdg0819 · December 2011

AnnieME:
She even sends me pictures of him throughout the day. Pulls on the heartstrings, but love that she shares pieces of his day with me. I look forward to every evening, weekend, vacation and summer with my boy. All you can do is make the moments count.

This sounds like a great DCP!

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