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so he officially moved out today

Although I know I made the right decision for myself and my children (including one on the way), I still feel so sad and have been crying all day.  Please tell me this gets better with time.

Re: so he officially moved out today

  • It does get better. Are you in counseling? It will take time but things will get better. There are many emotions you'll experience, don't fight them, it's a process.  You'll be okay.
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  • Good for you for taking the first steps!

    Just remember to document everything that he does that he shouldn't be. (ie emails, texts and such from him, threatening or not)

    It takes a strong person to leave especially while pregnant!

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  • You're allowed to feel sad and to cry.  This whole process is a rollercoaster of emotions.  If you're not seeing a counselor, I would suggest that as well.  It really does help to process the whole thing in a productive way.  Hang in there!
  • I am seeing a counselor.  Thanks for the words of encouragement. I feel like I've been so strong up until today, and now I'm just falling apart.
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    I am seeing a counselor.  Thanks for the words of encouragement. I feel like I've been so strong up until today, and now I'm just falling apart.

    This will happen again and again.  Emotions ebb and flow; one day you'll be on top of the world and the next you'll want to crawl into a hole and never come out.  This is normal and part of the process.  Don't fight it and in time the bad days lessen.  A few of the women on here (achase and amandajordan I think) were pregnant when doing through breakup/divorce.  They can provide a good perspective for you when they're on.  Stay here and you'll get a lot of helpful support.  This board saved me.

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  • Time is what it takes definitely.  I know you can't believe it right now, but it's true.  I remember nights just crumbling on the floor in a crying heap of depression.  Therapy helped, as did a few great friends that I could call in my low moments.  I journaled A LOT, and what helped was to journal when I felt strong about my decision.  Then, I could go back and read them in my times of struggle.  While it was the hardest thing/decision I have ever done, I couldn't be happier right now.  Take care of yourself. 
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