Trouble in Paradise
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Still not convinced this chick is real... 0-3 train wreck
Cliff notes: 17 year old lady with questionable SO is basically homeless. Her SO can buy Xmas presents for his buds but fails to be able to put a roof over his family's head when they need it. I think this chick is MUD but I posted advice in the off chance that she is real. It's the Rave Poster with the daughter named Raveyn or something like that. Anyway, if she is real...
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/61388335/ShowThread.aspx#61388335
Nesting from my phone so I can't edit HTML to make it clicky, apologies.
Re: Still not convinced this chick is real... 0-3 train wreck
She's a bit too eager to meet in person for a MUDder. It's still possible , of course, but I still have a fiver on real.
She's just so lead a horse to water. I mean, she has her parents, Portland has a ton of great non-prots (compared to the sticks I live in) and Bumpies has been shockingly supportive and eager to explain things to her. She just thinks it's more fun to act like she's a regular 20 -year-old and not a mother.
Sadly, I'm starting to think she's real too.
An ex of mine was like her d!ckwad H (FI?). He had plenty of money for booze and tattoos, but no money to feed, house or clothe his kids.
Yes, I've repeatedly smacked myself in the forehead for dating that one. Lawd, that guy was a frickin trainwreck. I swear, I could write a TIP novel on that one and it would probably sound freakishly similar to SilentSymphony's life.
Oh, and clicky (original link from Betty)!
http://pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi#general
Lurker here, but I think she's real, too. However, her fiance/SO isn't the father of her kid, so I'm guessing that's why he doesn't feel very obligated to help.
She's a mess. I hope she gets her act together, but she won't. And she'll have a buttload of kids that will suffer.
why does she call it a "money loan" - is therey any other kind of loan?
Booty loan!
Ah shyt-- I think she is real too. I feel kind of bad for her that she is stuck in this position, but I remember this was the one who didn't just get accidentally KU. I want to say she was TTC without stability.
Post on Relationships
Her Post on PPD board
ETA: She is not the OP on link #2. That is some other poor girl. I need more coffee... well tea because we are out. Caffeine. Must. Drink.
What is sad is that there a tons of girls like this out there. It makes my heart hurt.
Betty, you officially have a softer heart than me. She has problems with the loser "DH" because she refuses to not have a man in her life. She can't afford her own apartment, but why does she need to? Her parents aren't kicking her out? She's got a support system, which is more than many young women with an unplanned pregnancy.
She has resources, but she refuses to use them because they have a cost associated with them (like her pride when she marches down to social services and does what is right for her kid by asking for help). She refuses to make the right decisions because she doesn't have to. The only people paying for her path of least resistance style of parenting are her daughter and her parents.
I have a good friend who got KU'd at 16. She was living with the kid's father, which tells you what kind of home life she had. He kicked her out as soon as she popped a positive pregnancy test.
She got basic prenatal care, housing vouchers, counseling and a non-profit even set her up with a mentor (great idea, btw). It sucked, but you'd never hear that from her and she made parenting a priority and has since. She raised an incredible daughter and some twelve years later married an awesome guy and had another kid because they were stable and ready. Seeing what positive decisions that someone can make in that situation makes me a little intolerant of people who refuse to choose them.