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imdonel8r is baaaack!
She's over on Starting Over today.
So I have talked with my H for the last weekend about have brought up divorce proceedings. My mind been made up I am leaving. Nothing been filed in court yet. H doesn't know I already have been looking at lawyers and I am moving out right after the new year.
Now in a few of these conversations H has brought up how he knows if we get a divorce he would have to pay all my court cost and how he would have to buy me a car and etc. Now I was thinking of talking to him more about the divorce before I move out and when I finally tell him I am leaving . I can get him to sign and we can get a notary paperwork saying he will pay these things. Just in case "he changes his mind" or tries to be an as*hat during the divorce process.
Now do you think that would be a good idea to have him sign it?
Re: imdonel8r is baaaack!
Does "SAHSM" mean stay at home single mom? She's a) not single and b) hadn't mentioned children at ALL unless I just missed something.
And if there were kids, wouldn't child support be more of issue than alimony? And how old are the children?
Feel free to clarify Imdonel8r.
She's a SAH-Stepmom. I think she said before that she'll still be taking care of the kid after the divorce, only she'll be getting paid. But I could be wrong.
Her husband sounds like a serious assberry beret. I don't understand believing a single promise coming out of his mouth.
Aw crap, seriously? Imdonel8r, you're playing live-in babysitter for this douchitarian? Say it ain't so.
1.) Getting it in writing and notorized MIGHT work and it might not. Imdonel8r, make sure that you plan on having some money on hand just in case the written document is thrown out. You could be SOL otherwise.
2.) Ask your lawyer before you leave the house. In some states its considered abandoning your property and your rights to it. Be careful.
3.) I am assuming the reason you are offering to babysit for your step kid is because you have an emotional attachment to him. That is admirable, but at the same time, wouldn't it be super weird for you to remain so close to this doucher? I get that you want to do right by the kid, but that could almost be MORE confusing for the kid. I don't know, but its sad that this compromise you are willing to make for the sake of the kid (at your own expense) might be the only way you can see him/her after the divorce is final.
4.) I love the name-calling in this thread. It makes me giggle!
Hey . Sorry it took me so long to get on here. Actually it been kind of hard to get on without H here. I go to the SO board to kind of see what the "divorced issues " are and if they know.
Yeah my H is a super douche at this point. He tried to tell me the other day he was "depressed". But wouldn't get help.
Yes it means Stay At Home Step Mom. My SS is 3 / I have been with him since he was 4 months old full time.
" Aw crap, seriously? Imdonel8r, you're playing live-in babysitter for this douchitarian? Say it ain't so."
Well at least thats how I feel at this point. I am over it.
1) Yeah I have talked to my family member whos giving me the cash and she said it was fine and she could cover it.
2) I agree. When I leave I plan on taking all my things with me . So I will consult my lawyer.
3) Yeah that's the hard part because most states don't have any step-parent laws yet and its super hard to continue the relationship with the child.
I am so over this as*hat. Ugh Thankfully in FL you don't have to wait at all for a divorce. My attorney said depending on how it goes it could be finalized start to finish in 4-6 weeks !