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Sorry, I need to vent (long)
I am so sorry that I am going to sound like a winey b!tch right now. I have had about more than enough lately, and I can't handle much more. I have reached my limit even though I am trying my best to stay happy and positive for the people around me (My mom particularly).
So I just got a call from my aunt (my dad's sister). Here is the conversation.
Aunt: So what is the deal with Christmas Eve? I heard you mention it the other night that some cousins want to cancel it?
Me: Yes, that was the conversation. We have decided (my immediate family) that if Dad isn't home, we are not celebrating. We will wait until he is home and have our own Christmas, which all are welcomed to.Christmas is the last thing on our mind right now. We are concentrating on getting dad better.
Aunt: Well I just thought we would all spend time together then go visit him
Me: We would prefer to spend the time with him. Celebrating is not something we would be in the mood for. We are taking it one day at a time. We will make more of a decision Wednesday or Thursday if need be.
Aunt: Well, you know we have shopping and baking and cooking to do and we need to know soon.
Me: You guys all decide. Don't make your decision based on us, if Dad is home we will be there, if he isn't then we can't guarantee anything.
Aunt: What about Christmas day (sidenote- my mom always cooks)
Me: The same applies
Aunt: Well I thought we could all cook and bring it over and then go see your dad
Me: My mom hasn't spent more than an hour home since this happened, I am not sure if she will want to host dinner if dad isn't home. There is no way she will leave his side.
Aunt: Well let us know b/c you know we have stuff to do.
Ok - I'm sorry, I may just be in a mood right now. However, my aunt royally annoyed me. Come on? We still have 5 days to worry about this. She has been laid off for a year now, so it isn't even like she could say she won't have time - she sits home all day. Then suggesting that my mom still have dinner at her house? She didn't even offer to do dinner at her house. Of course my dad is going to tell us to continue on with Christmas, but we couldn't do that with him sitting there alone.
On top of all of this - we know my dad very well. There is a chance that if he isn't release by Saturday, he will sign himself out. He has done it before. We want him healthy more than we want him home.
So sorry this turned into a novel. I have been doing all the updates/phone calls etc so my mom doesn't have to and the stress is getting to me. Gahhh I need a vacation!
Re: Sorry, I need to vent (long)
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I'm sorry, it sucks to be the person that has to essentially be the communicator for everything, and usually nobody likes what you have to say anyway.
And for your aunt? WTF. After what your family is going through, why the frack would you(aunt) even expect dinner over at your mom's house? I think you should make a decision. No Christmas at your mom's house. If your dad is signed out by then, you can just have a non-extended family Christmas celebration, then a bigger one later.
If she's suggesting they make dinner and bring it over, she may be trying to make it easier by not expecting your mom to actually cook. So her intentions may be sorta good, but her delivery and actual solution aren't. It sounds like she's not okay with celebrating on a different day, but if that's the issue, then she should make arrangements other than having it at your mom's house.
I hope your dad gets better before the weekend and doesn't opt for checking himself out early. His health is definitely more important than celebrating on a specific date. Sorry you've had so much to deal with lately.
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