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This makes you sound CRAZY
Ladies, this is why you need to let things go! The following is a true story that JUST happened to me.
Quick Backstory: When I first started working in research my boss was seriously dating my mentor/trainer/coworker. They had a very rollercoaster like relationship (high highs and low lows). He would talk about the problems at work to almost anyone 
... She talked too, but only to me cause we were friends. He was eventually "let go" and a short time after his GF left him. Not because he was fired, they were on the rocks for a while. Both of them had children, she had a toddler and he had 2 boys (10 & 13). They were living together so she moved out with her son. I still talk to her and we occasionally have lunch. She got a job at another institution a while ago.
Their split was 2 years ago. Randomly today my old boss shows up at my office (he now works in another department) and asks to speak with me. I am leaving to start my new job soon and I thought maybe he needed some info regarding work... NOPE!! He started talking about his ex-GF and how he would like her to return the ring he gave her. He asked her in person and over email, and now he is asking me to ask her... Umm no. I told him it was between him and her. He seriously kept talking about how getting the ring back would bring him closure and make him and his children happy. He said it is not about money, it is just about the symbolism. I don't know why his kids would feel better, but that is his deal.
He sounded so immature and slightly crazy. I felt so awkward.
I come to find out it was not an engagement ring, just s random Valentine's gift. He also got her earings, but doesn't want those back... Again AWKWARD
Please do not do these kind of things. It makes you look like a crazy person and it scares people who might have at one point thought you were nice and normal.
Re: This makes you sound CRAZY
Oh wow, he does sound crazy. Don't people realize that not only are they making themselves look crazy, but they're also hurting themselves emotionally and mentally by not fully letting go.
For the most part yes he sounded depressed... When he started rambling about "How sick it was that the ring was in her possession while she bangs other guys..." and "I just need her not to have it." over and over.. That when I cut off the convo cause he honestly did sound crazy.
I told my friend that he sounded off cause I felt like she should know.
I have several rings that were given to me by ex bfs. I still have them all b/c well my jewelry is just all thrown in a case and I never wear any rings (I dont even wear my weddings rings). I actually found one of the rings (from my XBF) and its yellow gold so I was thinking oh I could sell this and get some money for it.
I cant imagine any of my ex's going crazy like that over a ring that wasn't an engagement ring. Its just nuts.