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Question about Christmas for Mr. K
Mr. K and I have decided that in lieu of gifts this year, we will be taking a small trip for Christmas.
He promised me earlier this week that he isn't getting me any gift this year (unless I want one) <- his words. I explained that I don't need/want anymore gifts from him and I would just like to spend time with him this Christmas.
However. because he does so much for me and took me on that fantastic birthday trip, I would like to get him a little something,. I was thinking of getting him a $25.00 GC to his favorite store along with a Christmas card.
BUT, since we had the talk about not giving gifts, would it be inappropriate for me to get him the GC? I know that even though I will offer to help pay for it, he is going to be paying for all the gas, hotel costs and the majority of the meals...
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Re: Question about Christmas for Mr. K
What about getting gift cards to places you know you'll be using them on your trips? This way you're still giving him something, and he can't not let you pay. Although, I guess he could still refuse to use the GC's, but you get my point.
But, you answer your original question, no, I wouldn't get him something (to his favorite store) after you both have agreed no gifts.
Those are great ideas! Thanks for the suggestions.
Ya know, I didn't even THINK of this! Thanks for bringing it up.
I will save the GC to his favorite store for just a random "I am thinking of you" gift sometime after the holiday season.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Yeah, I think that's the real issue. It can be really hard, for some reason, to say "no gifts" and actually respect it. Same with people getting married or having birthday/housewarming parties who say "no gifts" on the invitation... and what do they get? Either gifts anyway, or lots of gift cards! No idea why.
So anyway, I think saving it for a "thinking of you" gift is a good idea, or I would ask him now if you could pay for at least one of the hotel nights on your trip or something. I think it's totally fair to split the cost of the trip up. When The Artist and I went on our long weekend in Oct., we split the flights/hotel right down the middle, so except for some likely muddiness with meals, etc., we each paid for 1/2 the trip.
And fun, BTW! Where are you going?
Only: We were thinking about NOLA, but decided against it, since we're doing a race there in April. He said that NOLA is more fun in the Spring, anyway.
Now, we're thinking of Baton Rouge or Lafayette or a smaller coastal city in Texas. Since we're both open to anything, we are going to make the final decision later this week, we decided on going to the place with the best weather.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
But, keep in mind who is saying this. XH always said he didn't want any gifts and then would get pissy when I didn't get him one! It sounds like Mr. K is more practical though and really said no gifts because the trip is a gift itself.
Yeah, Mr. K is drama-free and when he says something he means it, so I don't foresee him expecting a gift if he says he doesn't want one.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.