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Analyze this conversation for me.
FIL says to DH: Hey I have four tickets to the Thunder game on Christmas night. Your mother, sister, fiance, and I were going to go, but you know your mother and sister don't seem to care about things like that - maybe you, me, and fiance can go instead?
Let's also assume that FIL and MIL have essentially ruined their relationship with DH because of their overbearing nagging, at the beginning of our marriage, to include SIL in everything that we do (ie, be her babysitter) and became extremely upset and aggitated when we stopped including her.
Re: Analyze this conversation for me.
That's true..at the same time...everyone was invited to the game but me. I highly doubt there is a bigger Thunder fan in the World.
So it was kind of like...ummmm.....it just seems like they do a really good job of letting me know I am not included in anything yet if the shoe were on the other foot....well, we know how that goes.
Listen here. Even if that's what they're trying to do here (and I STILL think that it's just a guy's night in the making), you don't have to play. They can't make you feel that way if you don't let them. Plus, if that IS the case, I think it might be better and healthier if you just shrug it off and don't play. I've used this trick lots before, and I've found that most of the time people like this just quit trying to get a reaction after awhile, if they even were in the first place. No free rent for them in your head.
Yes, I know you are making a good point. But, the irrational side of me thinks my husband should point this out to his father.
Regardless, and ignoring all of this, I do feel really bad for DH. His parents have gone out of their way to be welcoming to SIL's fiance whereas they have never been that way toward me (even before all the drama). I did ask him later on if he felt excluded because the four of them are together all the time and he simply said no - that we are a team, we do things together, that is why we got married, we don't need a third or fourth party to entertain us as his parents do. He always makes such good points.
Thank you for pointing this out so I didn't have to. Yes, there would be an unused ticket and I would be at home on CHRISTMAS NIGHT by myself. No mention of the ladies hanging out because that isn't how it works.
My parents have a hard time with this concept also. Yes, I'd like to go out and do something fun with you. No, I am not leaving my spouse home alone, especially on a holiday. We are a package deal.
They are extremely exasperated with the fact that we are a "package deal." I truly think they thought that everything would stay the same when we got married, DH and his father would pal around together, MIL and SIL would pal around together, and I don't think they ever considered that I wouldn't be okay with floating around in outer space somewhere. I am thankful DH recognized this and has "clung" to me but you can tell they are annoyed their perfect little nuclear family is messed up by a third party.