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WWYD - re: the XW
Hi ladies,
I dont post here a lot, but I like the advise you all give. The XW of SO is a sociopath (thanks Achase for the book rec,loved it!) She has no remorse, no conscience, blames everyone including their 10 year old son and is a habitual liar. She makes life miserable, so much that the 10 year old does not want their every other weekend visitation anymore. He is afraid of her, because as he said, she told him that if he continues to treat her like she is not his mother, he will regret it.
Anyway, she went out on short term disability leave the end of november for gallbladder surgery. We worked at this same company until last year when I left. She is still out on disability "recovering", however we have proof, pictures and all, that she is just milking it. She is in her car everyday shopping, going to the movies, attending family holiday parties, you name it, but yet she can't work. Would you send this proof to her job or leave it be?
Thanks!
Re: WWYD - re: the XW
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
This. Plus, you don't really know the exact terms of her leave. Holiday parties and driving are not necessarily verboten just because she's on leave. If you turn her in, it will bite you in the behind one way or another. And you'll be the one who looks like she's looking for trouble.
Yup, if you read the entire book it says that you should completely AVOID any and all interaction with the sociopath/psychopath, if at all possible. Obviously there are some situations (like having a psychotic ex-husband) where you have no choice. In that case, you keep any interaction to the BARE minimum.
Slightly unrelated - what book are we talking about? It sounds interesting.
It's called "Who's Pulling YOUR Strings; Breaking the Cycle of Manipulation". A very good read. It doesn't just describe and give examples of the behavior, it goes into detail about how to cope with manipulation in your life.
I just started reading it last week. I'm halfway through and it's really good!
I got goosebumps reading the 5 types of manipulators--XH is the borderline personality to a T!
Thank you!
XH is the Con or Antisocial Personality Disorder, to the letter. I got chills reading this book, but moreso when I read "The Sociopath Next Door". It scares me to think that I have a child with someone like that.
You're acting just as crazy as she is. Leave it be.