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Just a little vent....
I think H is trying to drive me up a wall. A little back story. Last time we were at therapy H halfas* the whole session and wouldn't back up anything he said. For instance he tried to say that he doesn't like the way I clean but when asked well what don't you like about it . He wouldn't give and answer. Or he complained that sometimes leftovers would be left out on the counter ( by me) even though he is the last one to eat... But no that's my fault because that's " my job" . Or the fact that I don't wash dishes on Sunday ( Day of Rest , Religious stuff) .
So anyways the last 2 days He has basically done all these things he b*tches about himself.Yesterday the kitchen was a disaster. I had cleaned it earlier in the day and then H came home and started prepping to make something for his holiday party for work today . Made a HUGE mess. Like went from no dishes in the sink to an over flow of dishes and then even dishes on the floor. Then he left food all over the counter . Trash everywhere but in the trash can. Well it was cleaned up ( yeah I know I am an idiot) I guess I just want things to go as smoothly as it can until I can leave.
Well I get up this morning and the dishes are everywhere overflowing again. H was cooking through the night . There is open food all over the counter. That has nothing to do with what he was cooking. There is trash all over the counters instead of in the trash can. There is even stuff in our dinning room. Theres kitchen utensils everywhere. I get woken up super early this morning with him cussing up a storm because he over cooked the food. I mean WTH? Which sucked because I was up a few hours before with a sick toddler and now I think I am getting sick.
I am NOT cleaning this freaking mess up. I cant wait till this is over.... UGh. Thanks for the vent.
Re: Just a little vent....
You never should have cleaned up before. You have taught him time and time again that he doesn't have to do anything in the house because you will.
DO not clean up again. Stay strong. If you need something, just clean it up for yourself.
Yeah, your husband is a jerkwad pig. WTF "your job"? I am a SAHM and wife, but you can bet your booty that I wouldn't be cleaning that shyt up. I bet you dollars to doughnuts that he did that crap on purpose. Really? Dishes on the FLOOR sounds to me like a giant middle finger.
I do my best with the housework, but H is obligated to at least do basic cleaning up after himself. The key words in my house? "Don't make my life harder. Kthanxbai". Essentially, if it makes my life harder and he does it he's going to hear about it.
Then again my husband isn't a fool. He knows that if he cooks then he best clean the dishes up that he used.
Side note: This reminds me of one other vent I've seen around the boards lately. Was it BBE? The run down of that post was "why does a man have to use EVERY dish in the kitchen when he cooks?' LOL. Your H sounds like one of those.
Seriously, on the floor!?!
OP, do not engage. Stay away from him, don't talk to him and certainly don't clean a single thing. I was stuck in my house with (STB at the time) XH for a few months of helll, and he did the same crap. Focus on getting yourself out of there asap.
Are you at least staying in a separate bedroom?
That was me! I look at it in more of a funny way, since I make him wash all the dishes almost every day. Also, don't lump my beloved hubby-wubby in the same category as this asswagon tyvm!
OP....it's a few more weeks. If you were someone just complaining about a one time thing, I'd have advice. Instead, I think you should just pack up as much of your stuff as you can, drop it at your parents, and then live like a disgusting frat boy until it's officially time to move out. Then he can deal with the disaster that you both created.
lol. That's what I was thinking about doing once I talk to the lawyer and start the process. Ugh dreading this . he is on his way home...