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S/O "This might be the last XYZ"
I don't get the insistence on telling/reminding people that someone is old or sick and might die.
"You definitely want to come to this party because this might be Grandma's last Christmas"
Things like that.
Not only is it morbid, it's downright rude. So the only reason I should spend time with Grandma is because she might die? How about, "it's a holiday, be with your family"? I just don't get it and my MIL says stuff like this about her parents at every..special occasion and has for the past eight years. How about if we just all appreciate every holiday we have together and not dwell all over the fact that we are ALL going to die eventually?
Am I the only one?
- namaste mothafockaaaas -
Re: S/O "This might be the last XYZ"
I agree with you.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Guilt, guilt guilt guilt.... or making excuses not to do something else
This phrase always has a hidden agenda.
Its mean to say something like that. I'm sure you would presumably know if your grandparent or parent or loved one was not doing well. For 3 years straight, we thought each christmas was my great-aunts last. She finally passed away earlier this year (she was rapidly declining mentally and physically).
Last year my grandma was excited to find out that she would be a great-grandma. She was killed 3 months later and never got meet my son. We all thought my grandpa would have been the first to go. It just shows that you never know.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
My MIL will definitely be pulling this someday in the far-off future.
My MIL talks about her own mortality incessantly. It's exhausting. I'm surprised my eyes are still attached to my head.
This was the source of a huge fight with the inlaws. Dh's grandmother said, at her 80th Thanksgiving, that she wanted it to be XYZ way since, after all it might be her last Thanksgiving. I piped up with Well if you live till next Tday, can we do it my way next year? And she got REALLY pissed.
And didn't pull it on me again, either. She's 99 now. Last Thanksgiving my asss.
Or he will ask why we haven't gone with them on vacation in a while, or done X Y or Z, whatever it might be, adding, "I could have been gone by now."
He's in perfect health, btw...
My mom has been trying to guilt me into family stuff for the last several years by saying it'll be my grandma's last one.
She's still alive. And my mother just sucks.