Starting Over
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
"Please Delay The Dating Until You Are Fully Healed" Article
Just saw this online and thought it was an interesting article and I wholeheartedly agree w/ the author.
Re: "Please Delay The Dating Until You Are Fully Healed" Article
Dup
I agree with the author in the situation she described.... if you were left, if you are still tormented by the end of your relationship, still left doors open, or if you still are craving closure.
She says....
"They are both still in significant pain, they don't understand why their ex partners exited their marriages, or what part they played in its demise."
If YOU were the one who left, or if your ex cheated on or abused you, what have you because of THEIR issues, or THEIR insecurities (which had nothing to do with you), and you were over their BS long before you even separated from them or divorced from them, (which I think many women on this board experienced - the so called "I checked out of my marriage 6 months before I even moved out syndrome), I think many women dated before the divorce was final, but they may have already been "healed" at that point and on their feet enough to move forward.
I think healing comes in many different stages for people. So the generic title "Please Delay The Dating Until You are Fully Healed" is accurate - it's just that the "Healing" phase is very different from one person to another.
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And I agree with KaraC - from what I've personally experienced and what I've seen on this board, there are varying lengths of time individuals need to heal depending on their situations (kind of a "duh" there). For people who did the leaving and who were over their marriage before the divorce was final, I think the healing time is often less than in other instances. I consider myself somewhat in that group and that's how I felt.