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would you...
...go to a football game half way across the country with a 10 month old baby who hasn't stopped moving for about 2 months now, and a 4 1/2 year old by yourself? And then after the game go through security and board an airplane completely alone?
To be clear, you're only alone from about 3 hours before the game until you're fully boarded. So...11am, through the game, on the bus to the airport, through security, boarding, wait about 2 hours on the plane for the team to finish at the stadium, get on their bus, go to the airport and then all of the support staff and team go through security and board?(8pm)
Or would you say that's ridiculous. That's going to be a massive disaster. That will be no fun. Thanks, but no thanks. Maybe next year.
wwand?
Re: would you...
Let me understand - I'm assuming your DH is going to the game, you and the kids are tagging along since it's in lovely FL. Or not? Are your/kids tix paid for?
I vote find a sitter and go by 'yourself'
thanks to jennied
No effing way. I'd leave the kids behind with grandma or skip it. Who am I kidding, I'd leave the kids behind and go.
The 2 hour wait on the plane (which will likely be longer) is enough to scare me away from taking the kids.
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I don't leave my kids. First of all - Owen is old enough to understand and it would completely crush him if he knew we both left without him. That's just him. And I breastfeed. To get 4 days ahead would take me weeks. Leaving them is not an option. I thought I was going to stay at the hotel during the game and then take the shuttle to the airport. Turns out that we're loading up before the game (8am) and then going straight to the plane afterwards. It's charter so we'll drive right to the tarmak. We'll do security outside standing in giant lines while holding all of our carry-ons. No chairs. No bathrooms. No snack shops. It'll be one of those huge 777 planes and everyone on it will be with our group, which means I'll see these people again so I can't just not give a siht since I'll never see them again. I will see these people again. Every year if my husband has his way. Yes, everything is paid for, but it's farking christmas. The reason we go is because you can't take people away from their families for 4 days at christmas time when they're already working 80 hours a week for you.
N, can you see if one of the other wives would be able to help you keep track of one of the kids and help you entertain them? If you can find someone it would be a bit of relief for you. Then I would make sure you have lots of stuff for them to keep busy while waiting.
Edited to add- I would go with the kids either way. I think I could do it and you have a lot more patience, plus 5 more months practice with 2 kids, than I do.
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
What else will you be doing when you're all there? Is it all team (adult) stuff, or family oriented? Or will you be able to spend time with your hubs?
Just the 8pm flight alone would cause me to say no to this whole trip. Along with a day full of waiting around and I'm sure random/missed naps.
thanks to jennied
I don't want to go. It just sounds like my own personal hell. 2 kids, by myself, all friggin day long, with a bunch of people who aren't really my people, who don't understand my son and his quirks, half way across the country, with no transportation easily accessible, and no husband.
He wants me to go. Bad. Thing is, he wouldn't do it on his own with 2 kids. He's asking me to do *** he wouldn't even be comfortable doing and it's pissing me off. We never even really argue but this one has come to a pretty serious stand-off and I'm just trying to gauge if I'm being overly ridiculous or if other moms wouldn't be overly thrilled about it either.
I'm never comfortable at these things to begin with. We're the poor people of that place and those wives. Oh man. I have nothing in common with them. They have a completely different reality than I do and it makes it hard to interact. Last year they were lecturing me about how I shouldn't be carrying my son since I was pregnant. He was asleep. It was near midnight if I remember correctly. My doctor said to listen to my body and I felt fine. What was I supposed to do? Wake up a 3 year old and make him walk nearly a mile, dead dog tired? They all hired babysitters to come along and babysit. They have money to throw around. We pinch pennies. Big big big difference. (but of course they didn't offer to carry him or share their sitter...)
I understand now - You think the options are go just the 2 of us or go all 4 of us.
The options are all 4 of us, or just him going. I'd love to go but the logistics just seem like more than I would be able to handle.
Ok, after reading your latest, I wouldn't go but I understand why he wants you to. It sounds like so much stress and you aren't going to have K's help at all.
Can you plan something special when he gets back? I'm assuming things at work slow down for him quite a bit after this game, right? Maybe a weekend at Coco Keys or something to recharge as a family?
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
Amelie lives in the Beco. That's a given that she'll be in that 98% of the time that we're there, but the seats are bleacher seats and I'm not sure if sitting is going to work out with her in the Beco. If she's not in the Beco she'll be trying to explore every possible way of potentially killing herself. She's a total daredevil. Owen was just so nice and sweet. This kid is a spitfire. I typically love it, but in this crowded stadium with alcohol being served, I'm nervous.
If we do any outings we foot the bill, which is totally understandable, but Kelly has press conferences every day, usually in the middle of the day. That's about 3 hours of work out of the day. All of the parks (Disney, SeaWorld, LegoLand, etc.) Would be close to $250 for one day, minus the time that Kelly would have to be gone working. We don't have $250 to spend on a park. If we did spend that sort of money I'd want the kids to be old enough to remember it. I'm really not a huge Disney person either. I'd love to go to SeaWorld and see the exhibits. I think that would be fun, but that's still super expensive.
So if we go we're hanging out at the pool. Amelie will be wearing her new swimming suit that just came in the mail and it's so cute I want to gobble her up. I just didn't realize until now how much I'd be doing by myself. Last year was so much easier with just me and Owen. Amelie is the curve ball in this situation.
While I hate that he's pushing you, I'd go with the kids. They'll have fun at the pool and hotel. I don't know if I would go to one of the parks quite yet without at least one parent per kid KWIM. E wants us to go on a Christmas vacation like "Good luck Charlie" on Disney did.
Can you rent a car fairly cheap to explore on your own and cheaper options?
How close is the ocean?
Yeah, no way in hell.
And if HE wouldn't do it, then I don't understand why he's expecting you to and then getting upset about it. He doesn't have a leg to stand on.
Also, you can rent cars at your hotel a lot of times - or take a shuttle from the hotel. Not sure if you said how long the trip is, but that would give you the option of renting the car for a day & no missing the airport shuttle. FL with a pool in Dec (& football!) is a no brainer for me.
Hmm, I'f I hated the wives, have nothing in common with them, and had to kid wrangle by myself, I'd pass. Free or not, doesn't sound like I would enjoy myself much, and I'd rather be in my home with the kids. They won't remember it much anyway, so why go now?
I vote no. I'm with ya sister.
THIS!