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BIL Girlfriend, le sigh.
Okay so FI and I don't have the best relationship with FI's Brother, but we're working on it. (In March there was a huge falling out between the three of us when he started dating his current live-in GF).
So we're getting together and the IL's house tomorrow for CE and we got the brother something, and I want to get something for the GF from us seeing is how we got everyone else something, I'd like to be able to give her something.
I asked him what type of things she liked, he said "oh if you just want to get her something superficial I'd say anything thats purple or has stars, she likes that kind of stuff"
What a ballsy answer that really doesn't help me at all. Anyone have any ideas of what I can pick up last minute for this woman?
Re: BIL Girlfriend, le sigh.
Maybe a scarf or a piece of jewelry? Candles? I don't know anyone who doesn't like candles.
Sounds reasonable, but I don't even know what she likes XD all I got was purple and stars, and if that was what I was using for criteria I'd probably end up giving her a GC to Chuck-E-Cheese.
A CD of Christmas music is another suggestion.
You say it's a ballsy answer, but yet.... why exactly do you want to get her a gift? Look at it from his perspective - it's the day before CE. To be asking him NOW what to get her.... eh, it's probably coming across as a last minute thought and that you're doing it because you feel you "have" to, not because you want to. Which really is the situation - you just don't want to look bad that you gave everyone else something and not her. You're not doing it because you want to extend an olive branch, or what have you.
We're right now - just yesterday and today - dealing w/ a gift giving issue w/ MY BIL's totally insane GF, but it's something she is giving to DS. It's a long story that I'm not going to go into - but quite honestly, her giving DS a gift is REALLY annoying and we'd really prefer that she didn't. (Keep in mind, he's 3 and she's never met him but has had PLENTY of opportunities to do so).
So - it kind of affects my view, but I really am wondering what it your real purpose in getting her a gift?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
Well actually I talked to him about it 2 weeks ago, I'm just now buying it. I want to get her a gift so that she doesn't think that we don't want to include her and acknowledge her.
yeah I should have mentioned that I didn't just ask because I'd been thinking about this before I just figured I had time to decide and now its CE and I don't know what to get her.
You're a woman right?
Candles, bath and body works or similar body shop type items, manicure/pedicure certificate, coach/kate spade (or other high end women's brand) key chain (they can be as low as 25 bucks), the make-up/perfume counter at stores always have lots of various gift sets, GC to Sephora or similar stores.
Not all men are in tune with gift giving for women - perhaps he himself has trouble coming up with things to give her. If you got her a nice coach candle maybe they have one in a pretty purple shade.
Earmuffs, slippers, a nice scarf, purse (there are really great sales around - - I purchased a bag for $25 at Banana Republic), a gift card to Starbuck's or Barnes and Noble, some kind of "home spa" set (lotion, gloves, eye mask., etc.), a nice candleholder, if there is something that she likes (like tea, coffee), get her a mug and a high end assortment of (tea. coffee), picture frame.......
Bottle of wine, her favorite fragrance, ditto the pp - a gift set from a dept. store makeup counter.
iTunes card?
ermm I dunno. I wouldn't have bought either of them anything. We had a falling out with my BIL and he still isn't getting jack sh!t from any of us.
heh, not late, I still haven't gotten a gift for her yet, I'm about to get up and i'll probably just end up setting her a GC.
I hate candles and get rid of them ASAP. My family has lots of allergies to all the artificial fragrances.