how do i get her to stop?

MarylandWed · December 2011

my sil is constantly thinking about what she eats and when she is going to exercise. i know this because she is always texting me about. like today she texted me to tell me she went out to breakfast but only had yogurt and granola. i don't care!!! later she will report to me that she is going on the treadmill. she routinely texts me about what she hasn't eaten, too. as in "we had a holiday party today at work but i only ate carrots." it's soooooo annoying. have your little eating disorder or whatever it is, but stop involving me. i don't even know how to respond. and i am sorry if i don't sound sympathetic but there is noooooooo talking to her. like if i say regarding the holiday party, anything in moderation is okay she will say "oh i know" or "no because if i eat one i can't stop myself" or "oh i ate a ton at home." it's like her life is all about punishing herself and restriction and i get sooooooo tired of hearing about it. what should i do? how do i respond so she stops? i am want to have a healthy relationship with food, exercise and balance and don't want to be a party to what i consider an unhealthy attitude.

*city bride* · December 2011

I'd respond with a number to an eating disorder support group. I did a lot of these things when I was heavily bulemic. Especially the "I ate earlier" excuse. I'd ask her to be honest and see if she's really suffering from some terrible eating disorder. She's likely telling you everything because if she sees it in front of her, it makes it more real. She's giving herself a pat on the back for "behaving" And, likewise, shaming herself when she does indulge.

MarylandWed · December 2011

*city bride*:
She's giving herself a pat on the back for "behaving" And, likewise, shaming herself when she does indulge.

omg you really hit the nail on the head. this seems like exactly what she is doing. any time i have commented to her she has been in complete demial so giving her a number to an eating diaorder clinic would not go over well. she simply doesn't see how she is is wrong at all. now is she 85 lbs like she once was? no. but could she use some therapy to learn to have a better relationship with food, i believe so.

AKBrideinMD · December 2011

i was going to say just stop responding @ all and maybe she'll get the hint, but i like city's answer better...to just confront her, because maybe she's crying out for help.

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