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Confronted my H last night...
For those who didn't read my post last week, I found out that my H had an affair that lasted, I believe, from August to December of this year with someone who I believe he met on Married Secrets. Yeah, awesome. My plan was to wait to out him until after the holidays because I wanted to enjoy Christmas as much as I could and not cloud everyone else's holiday with this. However, infidelity is a no-brainer for me and not something I am willing to put up with, so my long-term plan has been to (A) seek therapy to deal with the news and (B) seek legal representation to get out of the marriage.
Well, I worked yesterday (I am a nurse) and then headed to my parents' house for a get-together. My H was there, and he obviously had been drinking a lot throughout the day (as per his holiday usual). At one point, he started, in the middle of the kitchen, talking (quietly) about how he knew we had to have a discussion about our relationship, blah, blah, blah. I very firmly told him that this was not the time or place to discuss anything like that, and after persisting for a bit, he got up in a huff and got ready to leave. I followed him outside, and he continued his, "I want to be your husband, and we have things to work on," and my reply was, "You should have thought of that before you started f-ing around on me." I don't remember the entire conversation, as it was pretty much a blur, but the gist of it is that I told him I know (even called the OW by name) and he knows how I feel about infidelity and did he expect he could just have an affair, and I would never find out (he ended things last weekend, and he said he did, in fact, think I would never find out). So Merry Christmas to me!
I also told him that today, he was going to put on a happy face so that we don't have to tell everyone on Christmas that our marriage was over. My stepkids (who are 18 and 19) are coming to Christmas dinner this afternoon at my parents' house, and we are going to play the big happy family because I REFUSE to do this on Christmas. Of course, this morning, before I go to my parents', I am stopping at work, as my major support system thus far is my best friends at work, and while I won't go crash anyone's family Christmas, I will gladly do myself the favor of going into work and getting a little bit of love from my friends there before I start my day.
What a holy mess. Not what I wanted to have happen with this.
Re: Confronted my H last night...
Here's wishing you a better, peaceful and happier 2012!