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Assaulted by mil
Hello ladies, I really don't know where to start because I am so upset, but I need to vent here. Ok as most of you know me and my hubby are expecting twins. Yesterday my sil, invited me over for Christmas as she normally does every year. Well this year my mil happen to be there (background: my mil and I do not get along). Anyway I spoke to everyone and start to head towards the living room to give my nieces and nephews their Christmas gifts. All of sudden my mil accuse me of takin her son away from her and being a whore. Knowing where this would leave to I told my sil I will be leaving and call her later, all of sudden my mil grab my arm slam me against the wall and slap me!!! My first thought was to get away from her and protect my babies.
My sil and bil jumped up and restrain my mil. My mil was still trying to come at me she kick me and yelled she hated that *** and the little bastards I am carrying. I grab my son and locked myself in my truck. I call the police and told them to meet me at the hospital because I was nervous and it felt like i was having a breakdown. I am so upset part of me wish I would have knock the b!tch out, the other part Me says I did what I needed to do. Btw I press charges against her. I will not dropped the charges.
Ok now my mil family and other children are begging me to dropped the charges I WILL NOT!!! Btw my husband was away at work, but he told me if he had been there he probably would have hurt his mother. Please ladies tell me I am doing the right thing. I had to stay in the hospital overnight because, my stress level was high and I felt like i was having a miscarriage. Thank God me and my babies are fine thanks ladies for taking time to listen.
Re: Assaulted by mil
DO NOT drop the charges.
And if dh's family wants you to drop the charges, you need to cut them out of your lives.
Your FIRST priority is to your children, you need to protect them before you protect your MIL or anyone else in your h's fvcked up family. Your mom could have hurt your babies and caused you to miscarry. She needs to answer for that under the law.
Maybe if you refuse to drop the charges and she spends some time in jail (or at least time and effort and money fighting the charge) she will learn not to mess with you and your babies any longer.
Wow.... I think this one takes the cake.
She also sounds mentally ill.
Just out of utter curiosity: what does your H think of this?
After the fact but he should have told his mother where to go when she started the animosity and cut her out of your lives there and then.
Pressing charges good...
WHY would SIL invite you and NOT tell you MIL would be there?
Assuming you aren't leaving anything out and this is indeed the entire story, you are absolutely right in pressing charges. Seriously consider a restraining order as well.
you did the right thing, press charges, she needs consequences for her actions and the rest of the family needs to understand how messed up she truly is.
a judge would not hesitate to grant you a restraining order (called and order of protection in most states) but you should file soon as it's best if the incidents are recent.
Gretchen Evie, born 7/8/2012 at 35w5d
It's not up to you. You reported a crime, it's up to the DA to press charges. MIL pushed and slapped you, she's not going to do jail time.
She should spend some money on getting a laywer to represent her. Yes, this is all uncomfortable for the family, especially the witnesses to the crime, but she very much needs to be held accountable for her actions. Including not having everyone pretend it didn't happen.
You're probably going to end-up being annoyed that the DA doesn't do that much about it. But no, you should certainly not pretend it didn't happen. And you shouldn't let anyone pressure you out of backing-up your statement.
Stand firm with what you say and don't drop the charges. A grown woman attacked a pregnant woman. That is very serious and could have caused you to lose your unborn children. I don't care what the relationship is between the two women.
I hope you're doing better now and continue to take care of your son and upcoming beautiful twins.
My dh is very upset with his mother and told her he is done with her. Once my dh says those words it's a done deal, which I do not blame him.
My dh is very upset with his mother and told her he is done with her. Once my dh says those words it's a done deal, which I do not blame him.
My sil and my mil have not spoken in a month so it even surprised her that mil decided to come over out the blue. She was with me at the hospital and apologize over and over. I believe that my sil thought since it was Christmas my mil would be on her best behavior since she is supposedly a devout Christian (rolls eyes). The last time we were in tHe same place together we avoided speaking to each other. Although I love my sil I have made it clear I won't come over for a while if ever.
I don't blame you for not wanting to go to your SIL anymore....that's really a terrible thing that happened to you
Like everyone else here has said, you are absolutely right to do what you are doing - do not drop the charges and def get the restraining order on psycho mil.....
Glad you and your babies are ok....try to relax and enjoy the rest of your holidays
Just to throw this in here, Christians are exactly like everyone else. The only difference is that we have accepted Jesus into our hearts as our Savior. We still get mad, still fight, still have addictions, commit crimes, have mental health issues, and everything else. We are still human and we still make mistakes. Hopefully your MIL is turning to God, as well as good doctors and therapists, to help her get to a better mental place. And, just because she says she is a Christian, it doesn't means she is.
Outside of that, what your MIL did is so incredibly out of line. She could have killed your unborn children. I'm glad you and your DH are standing firm on this. Even if you decide to forgive her in your heart so you can let the anger go, that doesn't mean you should let her back into your lives. You have to put the safety of you and your family first. Stand strong.
I am staying strong ladies, it just hurt to remember my son screaming and trying to protect me. He was trying to help hold my mil back. My son was at the hospital holding me while I cried until my own mother arrived. I am so proud of him, I plan on speaking to my pastor about forgiving 2morrow at 2 pm. So I won't be carrying on too much hate right now, my dh will also attend, but mil is out of our lives forever. Thanks ladies for your words of kindness and wisdom
You are doing the right thing. NO one should be assaulted like that. Ugh disgraceful.
YES You did the right thing! Take care of your son and yourself (and babies) first!
You absolutely did the right thing!