Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Hi Ladies
I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm getting divorced, I haven't filed yet, but I looked around this board and so much of what you all said rings true for me. My husband is an alcoholic and has used drugs in the past. He is so manipulative and mean. I told him already that I want a divorce, but then I kind of was dragging my feet. I also told him that we would try to get through the holidays together (of course all he did was yell at me on Christmas day). Ultimately though, I'm 32 and I have come to the conclusion that I want to have children, but not with him. So now I need to get on the ball and get this divorce rolling.
Re: Hi Ladies
Hi and welcome. Sorry you've found yourself here but you're in good company. There are several woman on here who found themselves married to addicts, alcoholics, abusers and manipulators. I suggest pucking up a copy of "Who's Pulling Your Strings: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life" http://www.amazon.com/Whos-Pulling-Your-Strings-Manipulation/dp/B002WTC9RY/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1324998870&sr=1-1
achase (another regular) recommended this book to me and it's amazing! Also counseling helps a lot. Good luck.
It was a huge eye opener for me and has really helped me realize that there was nothing I could have done in my situation (XH was a drug addict and isolated me from family and friends and made me think I was nuts). Please continue to post, it's usually more active than this--a lot of people are away for the holidays. This board was instrumental in my recovery from my divorce.