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I did something stupid.
I know I don't come around very often, but I did something kind of stupid and need some perspective put on it. I really like this guy at work. I mean like...really like him. I work for a large company, and we work in seperate departments...not even on the same floor. I met him on our softball team and a group of us hang out every once in awhile. During one of said hangouts the weekend before Christmas, we got drunk and I ended up spending the night and obviously sleeping with him. When he took me back to my car the next day we talked like normal on the way, and when I left I gave him a quick kiss. But he didn't ask me for my number or anything. And now it's radio silence. The details are hazy, but I remember telling him I had a school girl crush on him (I know...lame). So crap. There goes that huh? I'm just really really bummed that I did that. I liked him a lot and now it seems like the feelings are not mutual. 
(insert me pouting here) Now what? Or is it just what it is and I need to move on and forget about him?
(insert me pouting here) Now what? Or is it just what it is and I need to move on and forget about him?
Re: I did something stupid.
This!
It would be incredibly hard, but I would try to act normal around him. You don't want to be the stalker girl.
I'm sorry
Yeah, it's not that I'm really being hard on myself. I'm just so let down by this. I let myself get hurt. I'm fine with flings, and I should have known better than to go home with someone I actually liked. I was asking for it I guess.
Oh this is totally my plan. I'm suffering in silence and have absolutely no intention of letting him know that I'm bothered by this at all. I for sure don't want to by that girl.
I just wanted to throw in that that totally sucks! Been there, done that. Use it as a boost instead! "I'm totally hot enough to bone my crush! Now I'm going to find a hotter guy more worthy of my loving all the time!"
Lol. I like this thought...
does that mean you should have gone home with someone you didn't like???
I'd follow up with him. Swing by his cubicle/office and say "the other night was a lot of fun, we should go out again." then wink and walk away.
ball in his court
This does totally suck...I'm sorry. However, I think there could be a whole mix of stuff going on right now. Definitely be prepared for it to be done, because that very well could happen. But, he may very well be trying to figure it out in his mind too and with the holidays, it may be providing a good distraction to not have to address it right away. I think you would be best just giving it some time, and then eventually just approach him like you normally would have before that night, especially if you guys are/were friends.
I would not do this. It may lead him on to think that you're easy and only want something casual and NSA, and that its ok to "hit it and quit it" when you actually have feelings for him.
Agree X100. If she likes him, making him into a booty call is not a good idea at all.
Hey guys, it's me Losocute. I can't for the life of me figure out my email or password to my screen name so this is what I came up with. Anyhoos...I really appreciate the advice that's been given.
What I meant by 'I should have known better to go home with someone I really liked' was just that. I shouldn't have done it, bc I did really like him and now look at what happened. I still really like him and now I don't know what's going on. I'm not normally a one night stand kind of girl...but you know, shiit happens and it wouldn't be my first time. This is just the first time that it's bothered me. And for the one who mentioned why I still like him, I just really don't know. He doesn't seem like the 'hit it and quit it' kind of guy so I'm having a hard time with why I'm still kind of hung up on him if that's what it was to him. But I don't know that. But he hasn't called either. He hasn't been at work last week or this week with vacation. So...meh. (insert confused, frustrated look here)
I don't know if I want to talk to him about it. I'm inclined just to leave it and see what happens the next time we see each other. All I can do is play it cool and see how it works out. Either he talks to me when he gets back to work or when I see him again outside of work...or he doesn't and I have to put on my big girl pants and a smile and just fake it until it doesn't bother me anymore. That's about all I got.
yikes, I dunno about this. If he wants to hang out with you, he's a guy and he'll make it happen.