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Awkward grocery store trip last night w/ the X.
Mr. K and I decided to go to the grocery store last night since we were gone all weekend (neither of us had any food). I usually go to the grocery store Monday during my lunch hour.
Mr. K got a shopping cart and I walked in because I was freezing and the the X was walking out. I said, "Hi, X" he responded with a half smile and said, "Hi, River." I figured that would be it, since he was walking out as we were walking into the store.
Mr. K and I went to produce first and made our way around to the other sections and who do I see standing right in our path? You guessed it! The X. He was talking (for a long time to an older man). We just passed each other non-nonchalantly, but I saw him glancing over at me a few times. Mr. K and I just continued on as we normally would in the store.
We made it to the check-out counter and I realized I forgot my quinoa flakes, so Mr. K put his things on the counter first while I ran to get what I forgot. I grabbed the quinoa and started running toward the check-out counter again and I almost (literally) ran into him. 
I said, "excuse me" and kept going.
As the lady was ringing up my food, the guy that X was with picked the lane that Mr. K and I were in, so the X was right behind us while I was checking out. 
The X and I are both non-confrontational. so aside from our initial "hello" and almost running into each other, we pretty much ignored each other.
I didn't mention anything about the X being there to Mr. K, I didn't think it was necessary to make him feel awkward too.
Also, I didn't realize that the X is so tall! When we were together, he slouched a lot, but I swear he grew a few inches and he filled out a bit. He used to be a skinny, scrawny, slouchy, guy and now he stands up straight and looks like he has put on a few pounds.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Re: Awkward grocery store trip last night w/ the X.
As if one bump in wasn't enough??!! It just kept happening! That sounds very frustrating...
I was wondering the same thing! Seeing him leave (with nothing in his hands, BTW) when I first walked in was awkward enough, but then seeing him standing there talking to that man after I thought he left made things MORE awkward.
When I saw him after grabbing the quinoa, he had his own cart, with another guy (maybe his roommate), with HIS own cart, too. The guy he was with was the one who decided to check out in our line. So bizarre.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
HAH, I know. Right?!
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I wonder if walking out empty-handed was totally innocent, though? Sometimes you walk into the grocery store expecting to get a cart in there, and then there aren't any, so you have to go out to get one. Esp since he was with someone else. Just thinking out loud.
I wonder if not having introduced Mr. K this time might make the ultimate introduction more awkward? I'm definitely not in your shoes, and I'm not judging.
Mostly, though, what are quinoa flakes? How do you use them? I love quinoa, but have never seen flakes!
Wow, akward.
I think that might top my akward. I went grocery shopping at the store near my parents. As I'm walking around, I hear my name. It is my STBXH's ex-girlfriend. She is also the one my ex-FI cheated on me with (it is how STBXH and I met. We started dating a year later). She knows about DS and asked how things were going. I told her what STBX did and she wasn't surprised and offered her sympathy and if there was anything she could do to help.
This. I think you handled yourself as well as you could have and he pulled a stalkerish move by purposely getting in the same line. Who does that?
Quinoa flakes are AWESOME! They are flakey, kind of like oatmeal, but less thick? I am not sure how to describe it, but it I love them. I eat them for breakfast a few times a week.
There really isn't a reason to introduce my current BF to my X. The X and I don't have kids or anything, so I have no reason to talk to him anymore.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Why would there need to be a formal introduction of the new BF and the ex H? They have no kids, from what I remember. They live separate lives. He can mind his own bees wax.
Yeah, that would make me feel kinda "blech" inside, but I think you handled it really well. It is a bit weird for him to go out and come back in, but maybe he forgot his wallet in the car, or had to get a cart like a PP suggested. Either way, it makes no difference. Not worth thinking about.
And I agree about the introductions - there's no reason for them to meet. Good call.