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Is it just me, or is this tacky?
A Facebook friend just sent out a private message to a ton of people. It has a link to a fundraising website (gofundme.com), entitled "Our Dream Wedding!" I'd just link it, but I suppose I should respect her privacy. (Even though I feel she violated my Inbox with the following:)
She and her fiance are young (she's 20, he's 22.) Her page says that because they have a baby girl and bills to pay that it's been difficult to save up for the wedding. She goes on to say both their families are in financial binds and that she believes in the sanctity of marriage and this will be her only marriage so she doesn't want to settle for certain things for the wedding. So she's asking for donations so she can have their dream wedding, set for October 2013.
Ummm. Really? I'm baffled. Thoughts?
Re: Is it just me, or is this tacky?
Stand up for something you believe in.
Also, the new sig of Kyler is ADORABLE! The hat!!!
Stand up for something you believe in.
Thanks Mary! The hat's from Gymboree...people keep asking me if I got it on Etsy. I like how Etsy is now the assumed go-to place to buy ANYTHING knitted.
And I'm glad I'm not just being judgey and mean about this girl. Sometimes I question my perspective on things lately, but damn...how can you honestly ask your friends for money for your own wedding? What is WRONG with people these days? Having bills to pay doesn't mean someone's going to want to help fund your nuptials; we all have bills, Crazycakes. And using her baby as an excuse too..
*sigh*
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
Not judgey at all and ditto everything Mary said.
I wonder if all of a sudden people think it's ok to do this. Our neighbor had a Halloween Party Fundraiser to help with their wedding costs (the $ from the admission tickets & a 50/50 raffle were going to their wedding fund). At first we felt bad for them and were thinking of going. Then, we saw the guy post on FB at least twice about going to some hockey games. Sorry but if you can spend $$ on the inflated ticket prices for the hockey games, you shouldn't be asking people for $$ to help pay for your wedding.
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That's pretty awful. If you can't afford a wedding, wait until you can. It's nobody's responsibility but her and her FI. I can't believe she used her baby and her family as an excuse.
I agree with Angela. Half the time when people ask for money they are spending what they do have on other frivulous things and that really annoys me.
FTR I also think that any kind of money "registry/fund" (honeymoon) is tacky.
I also think that any Facebook invite aside from "Hey we're getting together at my house to watch a football game" or some kind of sales party (Mary Kay, jewelry, Tupperware, Pampered Chef, etc.) is tacky.
So she broke two of my rules right off the bat.
I will say that I commend her for waiting two years to get married since they are young. But I also think that come 2013 there may not be a wedding....
updated 10.03.12
tacky as shiit.
I also hate it when people use their kids as pawns when pleading for money. If you have a kid and you are broke, deal with it. Make sacrifices. Don't beg for money.
Also if she really believed in the "sanctity of marriage" then she should realize that it's not about the pretty princess day, and just go to the friggin courthouse and get married by the JoP. Done and done.
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This.