June 2008 Weddings
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POLL: How accepting?
*I feel like I need to note this poll, as I am just curious, and don't mean to start a war about views/life's preferences. [Poll]
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Re: POLL: How accepting?
I think I'm the only one on the board in a 'mixed' marriage. Though DH is mixed....so I'm only in half a mixed marriage
My parents absolutely love him! And his family has zero issue....a lot of his family is mixed. (He was adopted, so his bio parents are different, but his adopted parents are both AA)
I can think of at least one other mixed couple on the board, so you are not alone Heather.
My sister is currently "sorta kinda seeing" an Indian guy. My parents are cool with it. They tend to be more concerned about religious differences and upbringing than race, because they think those types of differences contribute more to marital discord than the actual color of someone's skin. I do believe interfaith marriages and marriages between people who grew up very differently can be successful, but I tend to agree with my parents that those type of differences are harder to overcome than racial differences.
D'oh.....sorry Anasara!
I'm in a mixed marriage. I'm American & was brought up Catholic; DH is from India & was brought up Hindu. My parents always kind of figured I'd end up with a non-American given my dating history; the only white guy I ever dated was in high school & besides him the only American born guy I dated was Chinese-American.
My parents love my husband. Nobody in my family gasped when we got married, but then again we're not the 1st "mixed marriage". My mom's sister was married to a Korean guy & my cousin is married to an African American. Technically my parents could be considered mixed too as my dad's parents are from Brazil & my mom's are from Ireland, but I never really thought about it. Living in an urban area in the northeast mixing is pretty common I'd say.
Not sure my IL's can say the same about me but I really don't care. DH isn't the most observant Hindu & I'm not the greatest Catholic but we both go to services @ each others' places of worship. If we ever have kids we will expose them to both religions.
My father is white and his wife is black. I'm sort of estranged from my father (having nothing to do with his wife, who I like as much if not more than him), but I know that his mother and sisters were not really accepting.
And then came my bridal shower and my grandpa's idiot newish wife who couldn't figure out who the "colored lady" sitting at her table was. I told her it was my father's wife and she responded "Oh. ... Oh well, she was a pretty colored lady." Lord help me.
I am a product of a mixed marriage being half Japanese American and half German American. My dad's parents and my mom's dad weren't very accepting of their marriage. My dad's relationship was very strained for a very long time because of this and various other reasons. They have reconciled since right before my wedding, and now they are very much involved in all of our lives. Unfortunately, my mom's dad wasn't very involved in any of our lives and we all didn't get much of an opportunity to reconcile with him before he died. My parents would have been accepting of anyone I decided to marry regardless of ethnicity. They would have loved DH even if he wasn't white. We have had some issues with 2 of his cousins not "agreeing" with him dating/marrying me since I am mixed, but the rest of his family is very accepting of it and it doesn't matter to them.
I'm in a half mixed marriage being bi-racial myself :-)
See, this is the only concern my parents would have. They are very aware that in some circles children of mixed races can have a harder time fitting in, and/or other children and adults can be cruel because of their mixed race. They would have hated to see any grandchildren going through that. Luckily, however, I think the generations are becoming much more accepting.
Other than that, as long as I'm with someone I love who treats me well they do not care what color their skin is.
My cousin's wife is Asian and no one had any problems. All everyone gushes about is how beautiful their children are!
My sister has always been into African American guys. Thats all she has ever dated. She dated this one guy in HS who we all loved... he was awesome, super nice, had his *** together. So my family had no problem with him. Then she is with this loser of a baby daddy and we cannot stand him. He is so ghetto. My family is not accepting of him at all, but it has nothing to do with color, he just sucks!!!
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