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poll about what you know about your S.O.
1. How long have you been exclusive with your boyfriend/S.O.?
2. How often do you see each other? (live together, every day, few times/week, just on the weekends... ?)
3. (This is the question I'm really interested in..) How much do you know about his daily life? Do you know his exact routine, every day? Do you know generally what he's doing every day? Do you know the major things, but are still sometimes surprised when he tells you he did something that day that you had no idea he was planning on doing? etc ad infinitum. Basically, how informed do you keep each other on what you're doing every day and week?
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Re: poll about what you know about your S.O.
1. 10 months
2. it depends on his schedule but we normally don't go more than a week without seeing each other. He works nights and his shift rotates, I (currently) work M-F days so it's a challenge sometimes.
3. I know his routine and what he's doing. We text constantly and by now I know his routines. We were close friends for about 2 years before we started dating so some of it comes from that. We're also pretty much considered to be attached at the hip lol
1. How long have you been exclusive with your boyfriend/S.O.? 3 months almost
2. How often do you see each other? (live together, every day, few times/week, just on the weekends... ?) Pretty much every day
3. (This is the question I'm really interested in..) How much do you know about his daily life? Do you know his exact routine, every day? Do you know generally what he's doing every day? Do you know the major things, but are still sometimes surprised when he tells you he did something that day that you had no idea he was planning on doing? etc ad infinitum. Basically, how informed do you keep each other on what you're doing every day and week?
I know his exact routine. It doesn't really change. He works down the street so he calls when he gets out of work and then stops by. If he was going to the bank before stopping by for example, he would mention that in the phone call. I can't recall a time I was surprised by what he was doing during the day. He is very into keeping me in the loop. Right now I am home all day so I will run out and go to lunch with a friend or shop or whatnot. I usually text him when I get up and he will ask me what I am up to and I will tell him I went here or there... so I guess generally we are pretty informed of each others whereabouts.
1. How long have you been exclusive with your boyfriend/S.O.? 6 months
2. How often do you see each other? (live together, every day, few times/week, just on the weekends... ?) live together.
3. (This is the question I'm really interested in..) How much do you know about his daily life? Do you know his exact routine, every day? Do you know generally what he's doing every day? Do you know the major things, but are still sometimes surprised when he tells you he did something that day that you had no idea he was planning on doing? etc ad infinitum. Basically, how informed do you keep each other on what you're doing every day and week? I know his general routine but not exact. I also understand that he has his own life and can do as he pleases because he's a grown man. I trust him to not do things he really shouldn't be doing (cheating/illegal activity/etc), and hope that he feels the same about me. We try our best to live together, have a trusting relationship, and still be able to have individual lives if that makes sense.
1. How long have you been exclusive with your boyfriend/S.O.? 1.5 years
2. How often do you see each other? (live together, every day, few times/week, just on the weekends... ?) live together
3. (This is the question I'm really interested in..) How much do you know about his daily life? Do you know his exact routine, every day? Do you know generally what he's doing every day? Do you know the major things, but are still sometimes surprised when he tells you he did something that day that you had no idea he was planning on doing? etc ad infinitum. Basically, how informed do you keep each other on what you're doing every day and week? I know his general routine but not exact. He works midnights and his days off fall during the week, so most days he's sleeping until sometime in the afternoon. We rarely talk during the day- I am in and out of surgery and he is sleeping. But at night we catch up about our days and he usually says he did x,y,z. He usually runs errands when he wakes up so we can relax and have dinner together before he gets ready for work. I trust him and never worry about what he's doing on his days off. He's never done anything to make me wonder if he's leaving stuff out. My work schedule varies as far as the time I get off work, so he knows my routine well and we communicate if something comes up like dinner with a friend, etc.
1. How long have you been exclusive with your boyfriend/S.O.? 1 year
2. How often do you see each other? (live together, every day, few times/week, just on the weekends... ?) We spend every night together, so although we don't technically live together, for all intents and purposes, we do
3. (This is the question I'm really interested in..) How much do you know about his daily life? Do you know his exact routine, every day? Do you know generally what he's doing every day? Do you know the major things, but are still sometimes surprised when he tells you he did something that day that you had no idea he was planning on doing? etc ad infinitum. Basically, how informed do you keep each other on what you're doing every day and week? I know just about everything that he does lol. He goes to work in the morning, goes to his house to feed his parrots/do chores/eat/run errands, then comes into town for dance lessons, then comes to my house afterward to hang out and go to bed. We email back and forth a lot during the work day, too, so he'll tell me if he's planning anything different, and we talk about our days before bed. Similarly, he knows my routine, too, so it's not one-sided. I have the occasional girls' night (maybe 1-2x/month), and he'll invite some buddies over for beer and Xbox when that happens, so we do get our time apart, but I don't think I've ever been surprised to hear that he did something.
1. 7 months
2. We see each other 4-5 times a week. He stays at my place maybe 3 nights a week.
3. We know almost everything... mostly because we are "boring" lol. We talk before we go to bed every night and he tells me about his day and I fill him in on mine. Sometimes he will tell me something I am surprised by, like last week he and his friend built a guitar! I knew he was hanging with his friend, but the guitart thing was cool. I kinda like having a little mystery, I know if I asked for the play by play of his day he would share, but I just ask if anything interesting happened. 99% of the time his day is: Work, clean, read, eat, tv time then bed... If he is with me add in play time with DD and getting her ready for bed. Like I said most of the time our days are "boring", but I am happy.
ETA: More clarification
1) 7 months
2) depends on our schedules that week, but during the week usually twice and then mostly all weekend unless one of us has something going on. Used to be more but some nights he plays in a basketball league at 10pm and I'm up at 5:30am, so a sleepover just isn't reasonable.
3) His routine isn't the same every day, he's in sales so sometimes he's at his office, sometimes on the road seeing clients and sometimes working from home. In general I know which of the 3 he's doing and he usually calls me at lunchtime and fills me in on his day. Even if we don't see each other we still talk a couple of times a day and text throughout the day so I don't feel disconnected at all.
1. How long have you been exclusive with your boyfriend/S.O.? 4 months
2. How often do you see each other? (live together, every day, few times/week, just on the weekends... ?) we try for at least once or twice during the week and on weekends that neither are traveling out of town.
3. (This is the question I'm really interested in..) How much do you know about his daily life? Do you know his exact routine, every day? Do you know generally what he's doing every day? Do you know the major things, but are still sometimes surprised when he tells you he did something that day that you had no idea he was planning on doing? etc ad infinitum. Basically, how informed do you keep each other on what you're doing every day and week? we text everyday and kind of give a layout of what we are doing for the day or over the course of the week. We both know where each other is but with that said we can come and go as we please and definitely don't seek permission to do things unless we already had something planned with each other.
1) Almost a year and a half.
2) We live together
3) We know each other routines. We text all day so we usually end up telling each other what we're doing. There have been very few times we're apart for any length of time. I can probably count on 2 hands the times we weren't together (aside from work). As cheesey as it sounds, we are best friends and do everything together. It works for us because neither feels smothered. We agree that if we need time we just say so. We "hang out" all the time. We watch movies, play video games, even like shopping at the same stores... So there isn't much we don't know about each others routines. Every now and then he surprises me with romantic little things but I have never had a reason to question his intentions or activities.
1. Approx. 6 months
2. We see each other everyday, but we don't live together.
3. When we meet up after work to work-out, then we will talk about what we did that day, but for the most part, I already know what he is doing. During the day we will text one another just to say "hi." When he works from home (which is several times a week), I go to his place for lunch.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
1. Over 3 years
2. Living together
3. I know when he goes to work and he usually calls me 2-3 times (we aren't texters) and then calls me when he leaves work. I don't know every detail of what goes down at work, and I wouldn't want to. I know if he has had a bad customer/coworker, or if the girl who runs the German Shepherd rescue we got Callie from came in, but not really much else. (He works in the service department of a dealership). I don't know where he went to lunch or who with, but he usually calls me on his lunch break.
We live together so our nights are spent together. If we go out for girls/guys night, we usually text where we are going and when we will be home and give a general recap when we get home (ex.- X is getting a divorce so we went dancing or J wanted to go to the casino and I won/lost 50$). Sometimes these are planned, sometimes he will call me after work and say he's going to come home, change, and go out with the boys and vice versa. He's more of a homebody than I am,so I am more likely to go out while he plays video games.
So-I know where he is, but I don't know every detail of his day/night.
1. How long have you been exclusive with your boyfriend/S.O.? since May 23 2011
2. How often do you see each other? (live together, every day, few times/week, just on the weekends... ?) every day, we live together, we drive into work together, we work next door to each other.
3. (This is the question I'm really interested in..) How much do you know about his daily life? Do you know his exact routine, every day? Do you know generally what he's doing every day? Do you know the major things, but are still sometimes surprised when he tells you he did something that day that you had no idea he was planning on doing? etc ad infinitum. Basically, how informed do you keep each other on what you're doing every day and week? i pretty much know everything he is doing unless it relates to ring shopping or before Christmas when he was looking for my presents, but we tell each other everything about our days, our projects we work on, what we did that day (like when he works from home and i don't). Even before we moved in together, we saw each other every day and we told each other about our days, we have a very open relationship and enjoy talking to each other.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
lol! We're fine. Sorry if I sounded ominous. I was just curious. The Artist is out of the country right now, so we've just been emailing and Skyping every couple of days, and it just made me think that in a situation like this, I certainly don't know exactly what he's doing every day (nor he my schedule), but that's pretty normal for travel.
To answer my own questions, when we're in the same country (ha), we see each other about once a week and either one or both of the weekend days. We usually talk at least once a day, but sometimes it's just one text at night before bed. (Been together 4.5 months)
We kind of do what jaksmom said -- give each other a general outline of the next few days, if anything big is going on, etc. If I'm "surprised" by something he did that I didn't know about, it's not in a bad way. Just a "Oh, I didn't know you had to stop by your gallery today" or whatever.
I'm pretty happy with how close we are right now. It works for me.
1. At the end of this February it'll be 3 years.
2. We see each other every day. We've lived together for just over 2 years so this has been our routine for awhile.
3. We know pretty much everything. We have a solid routine and communicate everything to each other. Usually, over dinner is when we talk about our days and our plans for the following. Over the weekend we're 99% of the time doing things together.