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Poll: Highs and Lows of 2011
So, we're coming up on the New Year...what were some of the highs and lows of 2011 for you?
Highs: Starting to date BF, getting my new job
Lows: Being under- and unemployed for most of 2011, the 3 serious car accidents that I was in
Re: Poll: Highs and Lows of 2011
Highs: Meeting SO, landing a new job as a RN, graduating nursing school
Lows: Moving out of my house and going through a divorce
High: Getting my current job
Low: Jan-April of 2011 were probably the worst months of my life...divorce + bad, bad, bad job situation
Lows: Dealing with XH's drug-induced hallucinations, suicide treats and the divorce overall.
Highs: Moving back in with my family, having their amazing support and making some new friends.
Highs: Completing my first half Ironman, going to Spain, becoming exclusive with Mr. K, trapeze lessons, finally closing on the house I owned with X 4 years after the divorce and having a fantastic Mom that helped me out several times these past fews months.
Lows: Finding out that my oldest dog is in chronic renal failure and incontinent, so I get to clean up urine several times a day. Fun.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Highs- Getting certified, getting a new job, finalizing my divorce and meeting BF
Lows - Jan-March when X was still not in prison and I had to deal with that BS. When X decided to break our original divorce agreement and he got a lawyer in order to avoid paying CS... how that makes sense I will never know!? The lowest point for me was realizing that for 3 months I owed more money than I was making. It was very stressful and I am still digging myself out of that hole.
Highs: Seeing DD make it through the divorce stronger than ever, deciding to get myself in a good place and feeling amazing about life
Lows: Divorce and having to put my cat to sleep.
Highs: moving in w/ BF, going on quite a few fun weekend getaways with him, getting myself into therapy and working through some of my issues
Lows: getting in a car accident and having to get a new car, gaining back all (+ more) of the weight I lost last year
Highs: Getting my job, meeting BF, finding my apartment, becoming close with my parents, making my two newest friends, weight loss
Lows: Divorce, moving from my home to my parents to an apartment to another apartment, job loss, loss of friends, finances, friend's death, loss of my dogs, falling out with my brother.
ONWARD AND UPWARD 2012! Even though the world is going to end on 12/12/12 because the Detroit Lions are going to the Superbowl haha.
Highs: my divorce, because it made me a happier person. My new relationship. My new job I was just offered an hour ago.
Lows: getting laid off and divorced in one year was tough.
Highs: Losing 50 pounds (thanks divorce diet!), running my first 5K, surviving this year with dignity and grace, realizing how lucky I am to have amazing supports, being able to afford to take my kids to Disney!
Lows: Accepting the truth about my XH and the whole divorce process. Having to make the difficult decision to have my daughter's dog put down.
Highs: Meeting BF, completing my first half marathon, getting a new job (and the raise to go with it!), getting a new puppy. ETA: passing my certification test!
Lows: Work has just sucked this year, getting injured and not being able to run for half the year.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
High: deciding to study for and sit for my CFP exam. And taking it knowing that I did the very best I could.
Low: when BF back in February broke things off. It was the best thing that could have happened but I remember being soooo devastated, more because I thought I was done with BS and it really threw me for a loop. It was wayyy to much, wayyy to soon but at the time I thought he was everything I thought I needed. I kind of cringe when I think of the place I was in then but you live and learn.
Highs: Getting a beautiful granddaughter. Having a SO in my life that was wonderful to me. A trip to New York with my daughter.
Lows: Breaking up with SO.
Ending with a High. Things are back on with SO as his path has lead back to me. We are planning on spending New Years together.
Highs: there really hasn't been too many highs this year.
Lows: Separating from H, moving into my own place, and learning that I'm unable to have children
Pretty sucky year.
Highs: Getting a new job in June that lets me spend more time with DD every day; DD turning 1.
Lows: January and February were pretty rough - knowing that DD's Dad and I were done forever. Now, it's just the on-going court battles and the increasing lawyers bills.
High: Not very many actually. I did get a very low-paying job that's not stable, but hey at least it's a job, my niece, the trip I took to Disney.
Lows: Two pretty hard breakups (even though we were casual I took it really hard), losing my job, losing a few good friends, having very little money.
Honestly it's been a craptastic year and I don't really have any hope that 2012 will bring anything better. But maybe.
High - SO moving 800 + miles to be with me and moving in together
Low - Starting a new job and realizing what a mistake it was & finding out my Grandma has less than a year to live.
What?!!? Is this the SO who broke it off because he was thinking of getting back together with his XW?
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Highs: Just recently starting to pull it minutely together. Accepting and trying to forgive the past. (baby steps) Dating SO the sweetest, most loving, adoring guy.
Lows: Wow, there are so many...Mainly getting dumped on my azz, becoming a single mother, having my heartbroken, having it broken again watching my son get passed back and forth like a football, dealing with the anger of new girlfriend who took my place before I was even gone, etc. etc.
High: Alex being born
Low: Finding out that STBX was having an affair and ultimately ending with us persuing divorce
Highs: Meeting Z, getting a new job with same company closer to home, closer to buying a house and in a better financial situation than I have been in years and divorce being final.
Lows: Child Support court event, finding out XH knocked up his gf and married her a week after the divorce was final, going a month with no child support following child support court date.
yes, see post above for explanation.
Highs: Getting a new job, moving into an apartment I Iove, acquiring two new fuzzy companions (kitties), and losing 30 pounds.
Lows: Losing some friends...but, in the end, they were not people I needed in my life...so is that a high too? Oh, and I got pneumonia. Yuck.
If the pneumonia is really the only low I can think of, I consider 2011 to be a success! 2010 was my sh!tty year and I don't even want to think about it.
I am going to do this in reverse.
LOWS - Finding out my mom had cancer, watching her go through surgery, chemo, and radiation, and finding out that while she was doing that, my husband had gone online and met someone with whom he had a four-month affair.
HIGHS - They are pretty eclipsed by the lows, but the amount of support that my friends have offered me in the last three-ish weeks (since I found out) is probably the biggest high of the year for me. I think that when things are going badly for you, your friends are either going to step up or cut and run. I was lucky to find that my friends were as amazing as I suspected they were, and they have formed for me a support network that I would be lost without.