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so strange
I posted last week that I had a good first date and we had plans to hang out again the next night. There started being some red flags (just some small little things, but things that I wasn't comfortable with -- "jokingly" calling me woman, some of his jokes just had a mean tone to him, telling me that he laid down on my bed once when he went to the bathroom and it's really comfy) and I really just wasn't into him, so I told him it wasn't going to work out.
Here's the strange part. I put his number in my phone. Then later I was doing a search on Twitter on my phone and it looked in my contacts and his was one that came back. The profile it linked to was his first name (a sort of unique spelling of a somewhat common name) and a last name that started with a B (the full last name was on there). So when we were together again, I just casually asked hey, what's your last name. He didn't answer me at first so I jokingly said are you ignoring me. He finally signed and said a last name that started with a T (and a fairly common last name). I was a little confused and the whole thing was just weird -- like the way he was acting, so I didn't question it.
I found a place that for $1.99 you can search cell phone #s. And when I did his after he left, it showed up as his first name with the B last name. And a google search of that name brings up some items that are things he told me about -- like his LinkedIn shows the schools he went to and the job he said he did.
I'm curious (but not curious enough to text and ask him since I don't want a relationship with him) as to why he would lie about his last name... any thought y'all have!?
Re: so strange
That is really strange. I don't really know why he would lie unless he is hiding something.
I had something similar happen to me with a guy I was talking to online. He friended me on FB and all of his friends were females but nobody really seemed to write on his wall. He only had one picture of himself on FB. He called me from two different cell numbers and when I searched them the locations didn't add up to where he said that he lived. In fact, one of the numbers he said was his work cell came up as a land line in another city. I never met up with him because I got weird vibes.
"Lying about his last name screams con-artist to me. He's hiding something,"
yeah like a wife maybe?
That's the most common theory I am getting from others (and the one I am leaning towards also). It's amazing how many a$$holes there truly are in the world.
He's lying about his last name because he does not want you to know it. Don't be confused; there's nothing to be confused about. He's lying. And he does not want you to know it because he does not want you to be any more a part of his life than he allows. Meaning, he's got a wife or a girlfriend. Or a boyfriend. He wants you for what he wants you for, but not as part of his entire life.
So.Just as well you're breaking it off.