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So frustrated...
So, now I am the crazy, emotional pregnant lady crying at work. At least no one else is here. So, I have been very up front and honest with my bosses about what my future options are after the baby comes. The small town I live in has very limited options for daycare...like none. We would probably have to hire someone to come into our home, and there is only one friend that I would trust doing that, but I don't know how serious she is about becoming our in-home nanny during the day. So, I have asked to work from home handling our crop insurance on a wider basis for the agency and handling all of our internet presence as we are starting to get into the social media, and I already design our site.
Well, today, out of the blue, I get an email saying they have hired someone to become the Crop Manager (AFTER she has her training done because she has NO experience in it...I have almost 7 years) and will have a hand in the future internet presence/social media/website...hm. I guess that tells me where I stand. I seriously have no idea what would be available for me as a work option besides staying on full time, and if I would even be available to receive the manager promotion. I do have the financial option to just be a stay at home mom, but I didn't want to do that if I didn't have. to. I just want to SCREAM!
Re: So frustrated...
Is it possible that this is similar to the time where you thought you weren't getting the promotion and it was all in your head?
I don't know anything about insurance, but could she be the (in-office) crop manager while you handle the internet/at-home aspect of it? I hope that's the case. If not, you're not a crazy emotional pregnant lady - you're normal!
Well, I never did the get promotion full on. They said I had it on a probationary period, but I would hear from them by the end of fall...well, that came and went, and here I sit running the office by myself without the manager's salary.
I was just so miffed that it was a mass email sent to everyone, without even a note to me privately about how this will effect me. I just feel like since I am pregnant, they are moving on without me. And I am serious about that. I have no idea what would happen while I was on maternity leave anyway as I am the only person in this office, so they would have to find someone to work here for 6 weeks if I even do come back.
I hate all of the cryptic, behind closed doors crap. I was just so honest with them when I did not have to be AT ALL! I just expected the same in return, and did not get it whatsoever. They have not discussed anything with me about my future here after I know they have talked about it (obviously, with hiring this other person). With the crop thing, I just don't see enough work for two people to handle it. Doesn't help that this new hire is the daughter of a partner...whatever.
UGGHHHHHH! Nepotism!!! :-/
I'm sorry. This whole thing really blows. I'd try & find some time to sit with your boss alone and discuss privately how this is going to affect you in the future. What a load of crap. Not a good way to handle things on their end at all!!! :-(
I agree with Cindy - make sure you address this with your boss privately sooner rather than later. You don't deserve that shadiness after all the hard work you have done for them. I hope they handle it better than they have so far
Not my business, but if we could afford for me to stay home, I would in a heartbeat. So if you can, that's not a bad option, at least temporarily! Don't stress, it'll work out somehow!
Agreed! Definitely find time to sit down with your boss and iron things out. It is definitely discrimination and against the law to replace you because you became pregnant!
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I completely agree that it is time to have a serious sit down with your boss and get some answers. Not knowing what your future is with the company is stressful, and it sounds like there could be some shady business going on. It is discrimination to do this because you are pregnant. I would also stop being so up front with them about your options, which is really nice of you, but it seems they are using it against you, and not reciprocating by being up front with you. You need to protect yourself, not the company.
Sorry you are dealing with this
Ditto! I couldn't have said my reaction to this better.
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Totally agree with this, especially the bold part. Start focusing on yourself and not the company.
Sounds very unprofessional to me - I think you'd be doing the right thing by inquiring as to why you weren't given the opportunity to even try for the job. I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt that they didn't shaft you and potentially have other plans for you that are more conducive to both yours and the companies needs.
Perhaps it's the verbiage you used, but I can't help but be curious as to why you would only be a stay at home mom if you were forced to. I know you don't mean what you said in a way that's like, "I don't want to be at home with my baby," but now you have me wondering what's stopping you (especially now) if you don't have someone trustworthy to watch the babes and a job that may not be offering you an at-home alternative.
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We have our evaluations coming up in the next week or two, so hopefully I will get some answers and direction then.
Basically I at least wanted to work from home part time, so that I could be bringing in some money myself. I have been working since I was 13 years old, and I don't think I could handle not having a paycheck come in for me to spend on some stuff for myself, too. It isn't that I couldn't use Jeff's, or "our", money to buy myself stuff, I just know that I wouldn't. Plus, I really love most of my customers, and I don't just want to leave them entirely.
I totally get it - over a year ago I resigned from my full-time job to go full-time with my photography - GREAT idea and totally worth it but the first couple of months after my resignation (Dec-Feb) were dead months because of the bad weather around here - so I literally sat at home every single day. I began to get anti-social, stopped talking with friends, and didn't really take very good care of myself. Taking a part-time job at Maurices where I work about 15 hours a week was the best thing Jeff ever made me do because it got me out of the house and gave me a reason to get up and moving everyday...and I made friends.
Perhaps it's a good time to evaluate an at-home money maker you can start for yourself? I can't tell you how many SAHM's make money on the side by way of their crafts - you are great at design so maybe you can begin a small business with that and sell your product on etsy??
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