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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: dilema/vent
TTC #2 for a million years: SA normal, CD 23 bloodwork shows nothing amiss, ovulation detected. Next step: ? maybe CD3 bloodwork to check eggs? All out of pocket, so limited IF tests/treatments.
I'm so sorry
I wish I had advice, but I have no experience dealing with this. Maybe the first thing you could do would be to contact one of those places that offers to support to families of drug addicts etc? I would hope that they would know how to handle the situation and give you advice on what you should or shouldn't do.
I think you are right to be very careful though about sharing information - where you live, when you might be gone etc. I'm sure it's hard to feel like you have to hide that stuff, but it's probably best for your safety.
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My father also lives a sketchy life, lies/tells stories, and is extremely flaky, so I can somewhat relate to what you are going through.
I think you should try to talk to him about what you've noticed in his life, but only if you currently have an open line of communication with him (like you talk to him once+ every month or so), and I'm guessing you do since you spent X-mas with him. You should tell him you are worried. I wouldn't necessarily volunteer to help, because that might just enable him to ask for money to support his less than stellar lifestyle, or he might just try to use you in other ways. Hopefully he will be able to give you more information about his life situation, but he needs to WANT help/change before he can change :::hug:::
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I think Mgoss has it right. If you have an open line of communication, I would try telling him your concerns. He might be defensive, he might get angry (if you're afraid of his temper, maybe have H there with you or waiting in a nearby room), or...it might be he accepts your concerns. It's true, he needs to WANT help/change before he can.
Oh hugs!! I'm so sorry, it must be so hard to deal with!
this is a good idea. i just don't know for sure that he is doing drugs.. but i'm wondering if they'd have a way for me to find out.
thank you mgoss.
Ugh! I'm sorry. My uncle has/had a similar story. He didn't come around for a long time. He was ashamed of the choices that he had made and was making. Once he got clean he said it was the best feeling to know that if they did random drug tests at work that he didn't have anything to worry about because he was clean. He still pays for most everything in cash. It took a huge medical emergency with my grandma for my uncle to become sober and come around to see his parents and family more often.
Is there a family member that you can talk to, like an aunt or uncle to see if they notice anything? Are you in contact with any of his old friends from when you were little? I would find an Alanon or NA-Anon group and talk to someone. They will have suggestions.
I'm happy that I didn't know my uncle when he was a drug addict and alcoholic. Unfortunately he has started drinking again and it really bothers my mom.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I agree with the others, try and talk to him, but if he doesn't want to talk, let him know you're going to give him space.
Certainly he saw what a strained relationship you had with your mom and will take that into consideration.
I was wondering.. he always felt guilty about her. I don't want to guilt him into waking up but I wonder. I'm just scared to have the talk.. I don't want to not be close to my dad. There was a huge part of my life where he was my bestfriend. Now i'm scared that if I share any information with him, whether good or bad, it will end bad. UGH.
Though he's close enough for you to go have this talk face to face, is it possible to send him an email or letter with your concerns and the request to talk to him?
I only suggest this because he won't be blindsided by you wanting to discuss this and perhaps he can reflect on what your saying.
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Valentine's Day Dash 5k, 02/11/2012, 33:03
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Seattle Rock n Roll Half Marathon, 06/23/2012
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thank you. i knew there was something positive that came out of all this.
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