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What Do I Do?
Long story short... my friend's birthday is 3 days before H's. She is having a birthday party the day after his. I RSVP'd maybe because I was waiting for H to tell me what he would like to do for his birthday. 2 days ago H tells me he would really like to go away for the weekend. So I contact my friend today to say that I was really sorry because I will not be able to go out to the bar for her birthday because I would be going out of town and then ask her if I could take her out just the two of us to make it up to her. Her response: "I figured. So even though you've known about my birthday event for weeks you chose to plan something and miss it."
I am at a complete loss because I am a firm believer that my H should come first and this also includes his birthday. I can understand her being upset, but I at least had the decency to try to plan another event with her.
So that being said, what does everyone think?
Re: What Do I Do?
Your husband should absolutely come first!
I get annoyed when people over the age of like 16 make a big deal out of birthdays. If I were you, I'd leave it at that. You offered to take her out, if she takes you up on it, great! If not, don't worry about it.
This! It's too bad her feelings are hurt, but your DH should come first.
Serendipity3, South Beach, Miami, FL 2012
Sorry to hear you have to deal with this. I would maybe contact her again with the offer to celebrate her birthday once you return. If she is still a jerk about it I would just let it go.
On a side note have fun going out of town with DH
Wow, how rude.
I might nicely say "I'm sorry, but I did reply maybe because it's H's b-day as well & I was waiting to see what he wanted to do for his b-day. That's why I offered to go another time w/you."
Not sure if your friend is single or married (If she's married I'd hope she'd understand even more).
Yep she sure is! I think everyone made up my mind for me. I gave her 2 weeks notice about me not coming, and tried to plan something. I am over her drama.
Yeah, my sister mentioned that you told her this girl wrote on the event "someone needs to volunteer to be my DD!" - she's all sorts of cray cray, but then again I only say that because the first time I met her she smoked an e-cig at dinner, and the second time I met her, her ass was out a limo window ;-)
While she may be disappointed, she should appreciate your gesture to try to plan something else. And I doubt she'll even remember the night anyway. Oh well.