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anyone move in with roommates?
I am afraid to bring my pet(s) with me. I look around and see kitty or puppy look around and then go on some kind of shreadding bender.
Re: anyone move in with roommates?
Oh, Dernie, I didn't know you were getting divorced :-(
I'm on my second roommate, and I'm not cut out to live with a female. I never roomed with anyone in college, so I've only experienced living with men, which is WAY easier.
As far as pets, are you referring to yours or theirs destroying things?
I am not filing yet. I just moved out. My roommate is a guy and he is gone alot for his work. I have not yet had my first night alone. I stayed with a friend lastnight and will do so again tonight then I have to go it on my own.
I am concerned mine will destroy things. Right now they are still with H at the house.
I would probably leave the pets in my bedroom for a while to gauge their behavior in the new place. Do they have tendencies to do that kind of thing?
I'm sorry to hear about everything :-(
I'm sorry about the moving out. The first few nights alone are the hardest. I initially moved into my grandfather's house with both of my dogs, and it was hard. I had to be careful about crating and using baby gates. But it grandpa didn't take the same precautions, and would throw food wrappers and such into a little trash can by his chair in the living room and then wonder why they would take them out of the trash.
Having open communication about your pets with your roommate/ person you are staying with it really important- what can they eat/ not be given, not leaving shoes out, food on the counter, closing doors, etc.
But having my dogs with me has helped me cope a lot.
I am hoping to initially move in with my parents if they are willing to take in both me and my dog. If they aren't (I imagine they will be, but I don't want to count on that), I will probably go the route of moving out totally on my own, as I once vowed that I will never again live with someone I am not related to in some way. I had an important friendship go way off track for many years after we lived together and had it not end well.
I do know that if I do move into my parents' house, I will have to start crating my dog again when he is alone with the cats, as their house is a lot bigger than my current house is, and it has two levels and a basement (as well as litter boxes that he would like to use as his own personal snack buffet).
I'm coming at it from the opposite side...I moved in with a roommate who has pets (2 dogs and 1 cat when I moved in...we had to put one of the dogs down last March, so we're down to 1 dog and 1 cat now). I love it, personally, because I love animals, but I don't have the time to take care of them adequately. This way, I have cuddlely, lovable animals around to pet and play with, but my roommate does the vast majority of the caretaking, since they are hers.
The one issue we've had is that the cat's litterbox is in the basement, and if the door to the basement accidentally gets closed so that she can't get to it, the cat will go to the bathroom elsewhere (my bathroom, my study, the hallway, etc.). We're pretty vigilant about keeping the basement door open, so it doesn't happen that often, and when it has, my roommate has cleaned it up. I also started keeping the doors to my room, my study, and my bathroom closed, just in case. So it hasn't been a big deal at all.