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Thank You.
Thank you all for your advice and patience with my rambling post the other day. I've been to Surviving Infidelity and am in the midst of trying the 180. He's very sweet and loving to my face, but is still texting this girl behind my back. He's agreed to consider marital counseling, but I'm pretty sure this will just be prolonging the inevitable.
I think things really hit home when a friend at work looked me and asked me why I stayed after the first time, and I told him that I was afraid that this was as good as it gets for me. He told me that he'd like to choke my H for putting me through this, and that he couldn't understand why I felt bad for being ready to kick him to the curb. It's strange how much weight that carried coming from another man; I felt like it was partially a sign that the universe wanted me to know that all men aren't like the fools I've been dating.
For now, I'm trying to maintain things as they are because I have some things coming up that are going to shake my sense of security, and I'm afraid that leaving him on top of that would be the tipping point to drive me insane. With the 180 in effect, he's not a happy camper, and I'm working a lot of time that he's home, so things are as okay as they're going to be for a while.
I'm thankful for your advice and encouragement. Thank you for making me feel welcome.
Re: Thank You.
Of course you're welcome. Everyone needs a safe place to get sh.i.t off their chest and hear from people who can relate, especially about something like this.
I hope you can figure out how you want to proceed soon.