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I am full of questions today
I have mentioned on here before that I have two cats that I ended up with in my divorce. XH and I had gotten them together but he insisted that I take them when we divorced. He got the house and I moved into an apartment. I have been trying to find a home for them for awhile now.
The pet deposits and fees living in a rental are a lot. I can't really give them the attention that they need and since they aren't declawed I am constantly stressed out that they are going to do damage to the rental that I will have to pay for. One of them already tore up some carpet in the hall that I am sure is going to need replaced. Also, many places won't even accept two cats and I am trying to move closer to work when my lease ends next month.
I have tried asking friends, posting them on pet finder, craigslist, etc and nothing is working. Most of my friends are really allergic so nobody can take them in. A girl on my local board informed me the shelter here does not euthanize animals. I thought they did and that is why I never even entertained the idea. I still don't feel right dumping them off at a shelter but I am at a loss for other options. WWYD?
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Re: I am full of questions today
Is there any ways you can convince your XH to take back the cats? It seems like the house is the best place for them. Apartment living with cats is really tough, I done it before for 10 years. As much as I love my cats, I am really glad I don't have that worry anymore. I don't think my cats were ever fully happy couped up in the apartments.
I would honestly just surrender them to a local shelter. Unless they are sick or really old they will not be euthanized (usually) and that is probably their best chance for finding a loving home since you are not having much luck rehoming them on your own.
In anticipation of moving, you could contact the no-kill shelter (and other area shelters are good for this) and let them know of your situation. Ask them if they can put you in touch with local fostering programs. If your cats are lucky, a local organization may take to fostering them instead of leaving them in the shelter.
I'm assuming your cats don't have any behavioral problems? Typically, no-kill shelters will not accept animals they feel they cannot rehome.
I would reach out to as many fostering organizations as possible to see if you can find a temporary home for these cats, until they can be permanently rehomed.
I asked him over the summer and he came at me with,"Oh, now you are just going to abandon them like you did to me?" *Eyeroll*
Definitely talk to the no-kill shelter, but please try to do everything within your power not to drop them there. Hopefully, the people at the shelter can put you in touch with some local rescue and foster organizations. Cats tend not to do well confined in shelters, especially if they're used to a home environment. I'd only drop them off as a very last resort. You said you've exhausted your own rehoming resources, but foster organizations have a lot of contacts. Do some research and start making calls.
Poor kitties.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
And I donated some cat food and $$ when I dropped them off. Made me feel less guilty too.