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How long do you give it?
I'm online dating and have met a few guys (each one time) that are nice (and a few that are a bit creepy). But, my question is, how long do you keep in contact with someone without that spark or amazing fireworks? I know first (and second?) dates can be awkward, so I would tend to give guys at least that much. Just wondered if anyone had advice - I'm new to this (been with the same guy for the past 15 years), so I feel clueless. Cut my lossses early if there isn't a "wow" factor or give it 4 or more dates?
Re: How long do you give it?
Here are my guidelines:
2-3 minutes of inperson conversation to figure out if I might want to go on a date with them.
2-3 dates to see if I would want a romantic relationship with them.
2-3 months of dating to see if I am falling in love with them.
2-3 years to see if this is a person I want to marry.
I didn't keep going with anyone who I didn't feel a definite spark with on the first date.
That said, I can see wanting to give someone you liked a second chance, in case they weren't feeling well on the first date, or some other random circumstances. But that would be it for me. No third chances.
This exactly. If the spark isn't there, it isn't there. If I went out with a super nice guy and there wasn't a spark, I would occasionally give it a second date to see if there was anything there, but there never was, so I would usually just cut my losses after the first date.
I will say though, that the above really only ever happened with people that I didn't take my time getting to know via chat/email/text/phone whatever so there wasn't really anything "there" by the time we met. With the guy that I am currently seeing, we spent a few weeks getting to know each other before meeting in person, by the time we had our first date, the sparks were undeniable.
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This is the same for me. My first date w/ BF there wasn't a big spark, but we had so much in common that I wanted to do a second date and see where it led. The second date was much better, and the third even better, and so on. Had we not had so much in common though, I'm not sure I would have done a second date.