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I'm a little jealous (irrationally so)

Yesterday I went to my grandmother's house for a family dinner, and my cousin's girlfriend announced that she is pregnant. Of course, I congratulated them, and asked all the appropriate questions, but inside I was a little bit jealous. I have never felt that way after someone announced their pregnancy so it caught me a little by surprise. The voice in my head was saying, "Why does SHE get to have a baby, they aren't even responsible!" and then of course I felt super guilty about it.

Do any of you ever find the green-eyed monster popping up when other people announce their good news? Like I said, this has never happened to me before, so I need to do some thinking about why I had that kind of reaction.  

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Re: I'm a little jealous (irrationally so)

  • Not so much about babies, but more about someone being in a relationship or getting married, especially if they have been through a divorce.  That's probably one of my biggest flaws (which I'm working on) is comparing my story to others.  Like I think my timeline has to match up to everyone elses'.  I try to tell myself that everyone's "path" is different, blah, blah, but I often am left wondering why I had to go through the helll I did with XH, only to go through further helll in various relationship/dating experiences since then.  I envy those who didn't have to date a lot post-divorce to find the right person. 
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  • I felt this way when someone I knew who was irresponsible and terrible with money inherited a million dollars.  Come to think of it, I still feel this way. 
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  • YES!!  During the time that H and I were trying to have a baby so was my SIL, she got pregnant immediately and announced the good news at a party with the entire family.  This is her second child.  I was so bummed out..angry at her.  H and I were doing so well and, at the time, was so hopeful that it would happen to us soon.  But it didn't and it never will because after about 6 months of actively trying, doing everything correct, I had testing done and found that I'm unable to have children.  And then the demise of our marriage came soon thereafter.  So in hindsight, I dodged a bullet by not being able to conceive children with him.  But still when a family member or even a fb status comes up, I get bitter betty syndrome and hide them. 
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  • I know exactly what you mean. I compare my marriage to others marriage and often think wow, they are so lucky. I know everyone's marriage isn't perfect but I'm at the point where now I want to start planning for children, only to have to start from scratch. I'm actually nervous about finding Mr. Right and being able to have children before my own deadline of having children.
  • yes. I am a jealous b!tch. I should probably work on that.
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