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In your opinion- is porn cheating?

I like to lurk on the Trouble In Paradise board and see all the drama going on there. I found this http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/61802996.aspx where a woman is upset about finding porn on her husband's computer/phone.

Me personally, it wouldn't bother me. I know DH looks at it sometimes when I'm not home. I sometimes do when he isn't, we've watched it together before. It's not a big issue between us. (Although it would be a little weird if he had pictures downloaded to his phone, but again, wouldn't bother me)

I also like to read romance novels (lady porn, lol). It doesn't bother DH at all. Sometimes I'll be reading and DH will look over at me and I'll be laughing and he knows there was just some amusing synonym for penis. But I also know that some guys consider that cheating, that their woman should not be having thoughts like that about anyone but them. 

There is obviously no right or wrong answer here, I was just wondering what other couples thought about the subject. 

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Re: In your opinion- is porn cheating?

  • To me it's not cheating.  I definitely think it's something that should be talked about in a relationship, so you are sure you are on the same page.  I think any sneaking around/hiding things is not good for a relationship, even if it's not cheating.  But I don't care if H looks at porn, and he knows it.  Especially now that I'm the size of a house :)
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  • I don't think it is cheating.  I know DH looks at it, especially when I am gone half of the week.  I agree though that it needs to be open and not done in secret.  
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  • Not cheating.  But if it becomes the only sex going on in your marriage/household...that's a big, inexcusable problem! 

    I read that thread too btw...I am also a huge lurker on other boards :-/  Probably quite rude, I know.  Oh well! 

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    I read that thread too btw...I am also a huge lurker on other boards :-/  Probably quite rude, I know.  Oh well! 

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  • Ha, I totally lurk there too. 

    I agree, I don't think porn is cheating. Yeah, it would be weird if DH had it on his phone. I think that could signify addiction, but that's an entirely different issue.

    DH looks at/watches porn. We've watched it together, although it doesn't do much for me. There have been several occasions where I've walked in on him watching and - possible TMI alert - "helped." So. No. Not a problem.

    I do think that porn, and each person's opinion of it, is something that should be discussed in a long-term relationship.  

  • Same as all of you ladies. Not cheating, and not a problem unless it becomes the only "sex" ever had in a relationship. I love those boards. It's funny when someone posts a question and all the meanies with 30,000 posts make nasty comments and tell the poster to not visit that boards because their skin is too thin...lol
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