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Grandparent Name Question
In your family, do all the kids(cousins) call the grandparents the same thing?
Meaning, when the first grandkid came along, a name was picked and everyone else used the same one for subsequent grandkids?
Re: Grandparent Name Question
For us, yes. N & J are the first grandkids for my parents. ILs have a 9 y/o granddaughter, and we use the names she uses.
Same is true for my maternal grandparents. Most of my other cousins called my paternal grandmother "Grandmother," but when I started talking it came out as "Monner," so that is what my sister and I called her (we were the 2 youngest grandkids on that side).
When my cousins and I were born we were all taught to call my moms parents "Grandmother" and "Grandfather", and we all did. It was cute versions of that until we could make all of our sounds, so for a while they were gamudder and gamfadder. I think we all sort of bristle when someone calls them our Grandpa or grandma and are quick to correct. It's kind of formal on that side of the family.
My sister and I call our dad's dad Grandpa, and our cousin on that side calls him Papa or Papa Ed. Her daughter calls her grandpa "Big Daddy".
Emily is our parents first grandchild so they have chosen what they want to be called (well, my mom is still deciding) and my dad wants to be Grandpa, FI's mom wants to be called Granja (Gran-ya), and his dad wants to be Grampy. Of course they have 4 1/2 months to change their minds, but I think that will set the precident for any future grandkids that they will hopefully have.
Oldest grandchild picked on my parents side.
MIL picked on their side as she couldn't wait to be a Babcia. Didn't matter what the grand kids wanted.
Growing up, ours were all the same. Mom's side we all called the Grammy and Pop and Dad's side we all called them Grandmother and Granddaddy. My brother and I were not the oldest in either family so we used whatever had been decided before us.
My parents were named by my brother/xSIL 6 years ago when my niece was born. We are using the same names, though C has been calling my dad GPa or GPop instead of Grandpa... but I'm sure that will change.
My IL's would not give us names they wanted to use. So DH came up with names that we think they don't like. They never complained or gave us other options, so we've just stuck with it. Now, C is starting to call them their names, especially my FIL.
I was just sort of taken back when, on Christmas morning, all the gifts to my kids were from the names we call them and the gifts to my BIL's future kid were from different names. Seemed like a passive agressive way to say that someone (MIL/FIL or BIL/SIL) don't like the names we've used and are trying to change it. Maybe I just read into it too much but I would happily have used whatever name they wanted used if they had given us an alternative or said no.
Glad to see that its not completely unusual for cousins to use different names. Its so cute to hear C try to say FIL's name and know who he is, I hate to try to change it on him now.
yes. my cousins and i all call our grandmother "grandmother". she hates the name grandma.
mil is "boba" to all 3 grandkids. my mom is "grammy" and step dad is "grandpa" while my dad is "grandaddy"
Yes for my grandparents - although we were the only grandkids on my Dad's side so there really wasn't an issue.
My parents are the same with my kids and my sister's kids (my parents picked the names when my 10 y/o niece was born, so they have been around awhile - Nana and Papa). We have the only grandkids on my ILs side. They picked their names - Grandpa and Gram. I only assume any other grandkids will call them the same.
Oh my!! Why couldn't they have told you their preference before?? Maybe BIL wanted them to be named something different? weird!
On Dh's side yes, everyone call her Nanny or Nan.
On my side, I'm actually not sure. My Mom's Mom died when i was in kindergarden, I called her Nanny. I have no clue what my cousins and such called her. My Dad's parents, his Mother informed my Mom what she was to be called. I assume it was the same for all the grandkids; Nana and Pop-pop. She said Grandma made her sound old.
For DS, his Grandparents don't care what they are called. My Mom started out at Nah-nah but has since turned into Lala most likely because he is now using nahnah for other things. As for DH's parents, I don't think he has a name for them yet, but when we reference any of our parents, we always say Grandma or Grandpa.
I know, it was weird. Oh well, I don't care what they are called, just got me wondering what was going on. Maybe my MIL is training him on a new name today while she watches him. She better hurry because he's getting really good at calling their names when we look at pictures.
Not necessarily.
My mom asked to be called Nana. So the kids were sort of taught that was her name.
My MIL asked to be called Mia so same thing.
My step-mom is raising my mentally challenged sister's daughter so my niece calls her mum and calls my sister mom. My nephew (oldest cousin) calls her Granny or Grandma and he calls his other grandmother Granny too. Maddie calls her Grandma [last name] because that is how i introduced her to her. But none of those cousins are around her at the same time.
I think if the cousins are around the grandma at the same time, it makes sense for everyone to be using the same name. If they aren't, and the grandparent doesn't care about having multiple names, whatever.
If the grandparent wants to go by a specific name I say go with that.
Usually first grandkid wins by default because they called grandma some super cute name that stuck.
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
So Tasty, So Yummy
With the ILs A is the first grandchild, so we kind of picked. we just kind of went with the typical grandma ___first name___ and grandpa ___first name___. With my family she's the 5th so they went with the names used. Although my mom decided she'd be grandma posh for some reason, so she is. She's lucky-the kids used to call them "grandma" and "grandma with the mustache" (aka grandpa) but we always teased my mom that they were talking about her mustache.
For my kids, yes.
For me, no. One of my grandfather's was Grandaddy to me. My cousin started calling him just Daddy and that didn't fly, so they changed it to Papa.
hahahahahaha!
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
We called our GrandmaGrandpa. I'm the oldest on one side and second to youngest on the other.
We call the IL's what they decided what they wanted my nephew to call them.
My mom decided on Gigi(which has turned into calling herself Fabulous Gigi) an my dad is GP(Grandpa) or Old man. LOL
On my mom's side we had Grandma and Granddad. I was the first grandchild and I have no idea how those were decided. All 15 grandkids (ages 5 to 37) and Tracey all call her Grandma. With my dad's side, I did end up naming his mom Granna because I couldn't say Grandma. She only had two grandkids though.
rrr's dad is Grandpa Bob or just Grandpa, because my nephew's grandparents are all Grandpa/Grandma first name. He's 11, so that was set in stone by the time Tracey came along.
My mom picked Mimi so all the grandkids will call her that. My dad is Mista, a combo of New Orleans' "trow me somethin' mista" and the fact that when asked what his grandchild would call him, his response was "why, Mister Lastname, of course!" I can't imagine nieces or nephews calling them anything else!
Yes usually the first grandchild makes up the name. My niece made up the name Tabba.
So my mom is Tabba. My mom wanted to be called Gemma, but that did not happen.
My dad made up his name, and he is PaPa.
My ILs made up their name, and they are gramma and grampa so far.