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So, my stbx just told me last night that he?
and I quote "has a 25 yr old? no 24!" (I guess that means he's dating?!?!) Okay, he's 43 btw?so that is gross. It all started because he said "your boyfriend is on tv" (he know I've always had a crush on Chris Brown?but prior to the Rhianna abuse)? and I said "oh really?" And he started craaaacking up. So, I said "what the hell is so funny" .. and he called me a jaguar and was basically making fun of me? like I can't get a younger guy (not that I want one btw) I think he might have meant cougar.. but I am by NO means a cougar!!! So, I said "don't laugh at me.. I always get told I look younger than I am" (I'm 36?but I look good dammit! 
And I had to stick up for myself, ya know!) So, then he said. "please, I'll have you know I have a 25 yr old? I mean ? no, 24". I said, good for you, I'm sure you've had her this WHOLE time too and I bet you have a lot in common." Seriously, I am so over this man, but every time he opens his mouth I want to punch him in his face. I guess he was trying to make me jealous?? I don't get it. I'm disgusted though.. and to think when I told him I wanted a divorce he called me a quitter and that he wished I would work on our marriage. Good thing I followed my gut that I ignored for so long? that he was cheating on me for a loooong time. What a clown? I am counting down the days where he gets the f.u.cck outta my house!
Re: So, my stbx just told me last night that he?
I know .. you're 100% right...and I usually do just ignore him... but its hard to hold it in sometimes.
I know it's not. I'm well over a year apart from my XH, and it's still hard to bite my tounge sometimes. Just try to remind yourself that nothing you say will have an impact on your STBX or change his mind/opinion. It would just be a wasted effort and show him that his words bother you. Don't give him that satisifaction!
I agree with not engaging him in discussion.
EEEEEEW What a creep!
For me it helps to remind myself often that what ever other people say, it is about them and not you.
I concur with the 'don't engage the dillhole' assessment. The less you talk to him, the better. This is all about him, and has nothing to do with you, other than you being the target of his idiocy.
And yeah, ick on the creep factor. I know when I found out my XH (at 27) was dating a 20 year-old undergrad, it squicked me the hell out.
For me it was the opposite...XH was barely 26 when he started dating the 31 (now 32) year old OW. I giggle a little at the thought of someone who is older than me (I'm 28) dating my younger XH. Tehehe...