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I can see that dealing with my ex is going be a 16 year torture sentence...
So we have been split since Aug. He reluctantly signed a temporary agreement in Aug. to get Wednesdays and every other weekend. The agreement did not address child support at all as it was just as it was basically an emergency document so that he wouldn't accuse me of kidnapping.
Since then my attorney has attempted to contact his attorney multiple times with zero response. WTF. I don't understand what is so effing hard about putting out a little effort to come to an agreement on a child support and final visitation schedule. The hand full of times I have spoken to him on the phone all he does is complain about not seeing DS enough but he proposes no alternative to the current schedule. Then to top it off last night he breifly spoke to me about where to drop of DS this morning since his parents are out of town. During the breif conversation he managed to tell me for the hundreth time that I am purposely keeping his son from him and that the reason we aren't together is because it was a "nightmare" to live with me. Wow, I can see we are really making a lot of progress after 5 months.
Re: I can see that dealing with my ex is going be a 16 year torture sentence...
Question: Do you just post sh!t and then never return to read what people reply.
Goddamn.
Progress, indeed.
*meaningful look*
Is he taking advantage of all of his current parenting time? We have the exact same parenting schedule as you do. My XH likes to pull the "you never let me see me son" card too, but he's used a whopping ONE Wednesday visit in the last year, has given up 2 weeks of summer vacation time with him, as well as 3 or 4 days of extra visitation I've offered (we have a "first option for childcare" clause in our CO that states if the custodial parent is unable to care for DS for more than 4 hours at a time, then the other parent needs to be contacted first before other options for childcare are pursued). He called me 2 days before Christmas, asking if he could keep DS the day after Christmas as well...when I said no, and that we already had plans to celebrate Christmas with FF's family (and have had these plans for well over a month), he flipped out and was screaming at me that I never let him see his son. Oh, and his classy GF was screaming profanities in the background too ::::eyeroll::::
Anyway, I digress....
I ask this because if he's not utilizing it all right now, then just write up what you current have into the custody agreement. He'll likely sign it. And why are you trying to negotiate CS? That's something the courts calculate for you and he doesn't have an option.
Yup. But, on the plus said, at least she's not DDing her posts.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I wouldn't continue to post here if I didn't want to hear your opinions. I do appreciate the advice you give. No, I don't do everything you tell me to but I do appreciate hearing from others who have been through this experience.
We definitely stick to the schedule. He has him every Weds. night and every other weekend. He has never missed a day. He frequently asks for Thursdays so he can have DS for 4 nights in a row and I've told him no every time because I am not going to go 4 nights without seeing my son. That is the main thing he wants I suppose is 3 or 4 nights in a row but mainly because my son is only two I am not willing to go for more than 2 nights in a row without seeing him.
Well it is becoming very clear that he isn't going to pay me a decent amount of child support until a judge orders it. Through my attorney I was trying to negotiate terms without having to go to court. But since he has not responded I am going to tell my attorney to set up a hearing.
Wait, he has him OVERNIGHT on Wednesday's? My XH only has evening visitation (4pm-7pm) on Wednesday's. Definitely keep sticking to your guns and don't let your X have your son for 4 nights in a row every other week. That's ridiculous for a 2 y/o.
Yes, and really I suppose the only reason it is overnight is because he lives 1.5 hours away from me.
Just to clarify your DS does stay overnight with your ex on the weekends?
Yes, XH has DS overnights EOW from Friday at 5:00 until Sunday at 5:00. Wednesdays, if he used them, would be from 4:00pm-7:00pm