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Leaving DH tomorrow...
Hi all. I've decided to leave DH earlier than I was originally planning; I'm moving back to my parents' place tomorrow. I know this is the right thing to do, I'm just feeling very crappy right this second. I'm not having second thoughts, I guess I'm just stressing more about how I'm going to feel like crap for the next few months, if that makes sense. I guess I'm looking for some feedback from people who have gone through this before. How long did it take you to start feeling better?
Re: Leaving DH tomorrow...
I started feeling better within the first few weeks of living in my own place. Not seeing my XH every single day really helped me separate myself even more from him and from the situation.
I don't know your story, but good luck!
Sooner than you think. It helps that you know in your gut this is the right thing to do. Good luck, you'll be just fine.
Does he know what you are leaving?
Thank you! My story is in a post from a few days ago called something like "married 7 months and divorce is on the table..." which is why I didn't summarize it again lol. Not saying you have to read it or anything, just that that's why I didn't go into it again here.
It's good to know that someone started feeling better within a few weeks. I'm kind of nervous about going from an apartment to living with the parents again, but it can't be worse than here.
Make sure you take everything you want now. You don't want to have to fight for anything later. Get all your important paperwork, anything sentimental, etc.
I went through an initial period of elation because I had made my decision and had started my new life without him...then it hit me. After several weeks I felt better.
Time will heal most wounds. Until then, get a lawyer, a therapist and use the support of your family and friends. Many women journal their emotions (to get it out and also to later look back on if you start to second guess your decision and even later to marvel at the emotional progress you've made).
When you feel ready get yourself involved in community activities or exercise to turn your pain into something positive.
Ditto this. An few hours a week on the eliptical listening to Kanye's 808's and Heartbreak saved my sanity.