On having a missed miscarriage

Loveofjoe11 · January 2012

It makes me even more nervous with this pregnancy. I know we saw a heart beat, but I just don't feel all that pregnant anymore. I have intermittent waves of nausea, but that could just be because I've been standing on my feet for four hours. I feel like my boobs have stopped getting any bigger. I don't think I quite have the pouch yet.

I'm not having any signs of a miscarriage, but I didn't either. That's what makes it so nerve wrecking.

I'm in the PICU right now and they have a portable ultrasound. I could pull it in a room and look at my baby, but I'm scared of not seeing a heart beat and then what. My next OB appointment is January 12th, so I'm just trying to be patient until then.

Mrs.MillerJune2008 · January 2012

praying for you! *hugs* take care of yourself as much as you can.

TeacherTiff · January 2012

You have major will power. If I had that machine at my disposal, I'd for sure take a peek!

T&P for your comfort... I'm sure he/she is just fine in there. *hugs*

mucutiepie124 · January 2012

I have been where you are at, Amanda. It is terrifying, nerve-wracking, and you constantly are thinking the worst.

Try to relax and do something for yourself each day until your appointment. I would also constantly remind myself that I was pregnant today and love my baby.

The 12th will be here in no time. Hugs!!

Lisa and Mickey · January 2012

I was terrified even after the ultrasound and I had not gone through what you have. When the nausea went away I was totally freaked out until I started getting a belly and even then I was nervous. It is totally understandable. As time went on I started to relax and get more comfortable with the idea of being pregnant and everything being ok.

Rangergal9 · January 2012

((hugs)) I've never had a m/c but I was a total wreck both pregnancies. It got better once I could feel the baby/babies moving! Early in the twin pregnancy I was terrified that I had lost one of them. Obviously, everything turned out fine. T&Ps going your way and the 12th is just next week :-)

alliapistor · January 2012

TeacherTiff:

You have major will power. If I had that machine at my disposal, I'd for sure take a peek!

T&P for your comfort... I'm sure he/she is just fine in there. *hugs*

This. I would be horrible - looking at the baby every day.

But sometimes the "symptoms" of pregnancy go away, but the baby is just doing fine. There were definitely days when I just didn't "feel" pregnant right up until I started feeling him kick. Hang in there.

ColleenS629 · January 2012

My m/c wasn't a missed m/c but I was still so nervous during my pregnancy. It is terrifying to not know what is going on in there! The one good thing about having to do IVF was that I got an u/s every week minimum until 10 weeks, then got them bi-weekly. I wish I could tell you it gets easier, but it didn't for me. Even when I felt consistent movement, I was nervous that I was only feeling one baby, not two... although that won't be an issue with you so maybe you will feel better when you feel consistent movement. I'll be thinking of you. Hugs!

eb1113 · January 2012

Being pregnant after having a m/c is so difficult. I remember when I was pg with Abbie I was so nervous all the time. But, I also tried to remind myself every day that "Today I was pregnant" and I constantly looked at the ultrasound pictures I had to help myself remember.

My doctors was great with my fears too. My main dr told me to call anytime I was worried. Twice she had me come in on a Saturday and snuck me into L&D to do a quick ultrasound.

To be honest, my worries continued throughout the entire pregnancy. When she started moving, I worried when I didn't feel her move. (I drove my DH crazy!) It was those days when I realized I can't be so nervous because it's not good for me or the baby.

Take things one day at a time. Remind yourself that you are pregnant, and the 12th is next week!

naylon511 · January 2012

Also, the worrying doesn't end when you have a baby in your arms. Sure, the worries change, but you're a Mom. You will ALWAYS worry about something

613marriedlady · January 2012

I can only imagine how your are feeling. Hang in there. You'll be in t&p's.

bbetson · January 2012

Pregnancy after a miscarriage sucks. I am sorry that you are so nervous and anxious. I can tell you that it is totally normal to be so worried and anxious. For me, I would have a great doctor appointment and feel at ease for a few days and then the worry would creep back in to my head. I would be so nervous before my doctor appointments that I would get an upset stomach. I can tell you, from experience, that now that I can feel him move I am not so worried. I do worry if I don't feel him for awhile, but I usually sit down and focus on him and thump, there he is. So, for me at least, it did get slightly better. I still worry, but being able to feel him has really helped calm my nerves. Now of course I worry about random things like "why is the movement only on my left?" or "why hasn't he kicked my bladder in a day or two?" So, the worry is still there, but it is much better.

Take it one day at time and know that this pregnancy is completely different than your last one. And of course, the old saying "today I am pregnant."

mrsjanks · January 2012

naylon511:
Also, the worrying doesn't end when you have a baby in your arms. Sure, the worries change, but you're a Mom. You will ALWAYS worry about something

Ditto this! Is he eating enough? Is he eating too much? Why is he still asleep? Uh-oh, he coughed! Oh no, I can't hear him breathing on the baby monitor!

aflowers · January 2012

Hang in there. I had days where my symptoms were much less than "normal" and of course I freaked out. That was also before I could find the heartbeat on the doppler so I had no reassurance. FX that everything is fine! Being PGAL sucks!

Loveofjoe11 · January 2012

Thanks for all of the kind words and encouragement, ladies!

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