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Trouble with best friends wife
I don't want to spend time with by husband's best friends wife. Does that make me a terrible wife? She lies and is manipulative. Drama seems to follow her constantly. I'd be happiest to be as far away from her as possible but my husband obviously wants time with his best friend. Most recently, she denied an incident that two of my friends witnessed. She tried to tell her husband that my friends and i were making things up about her. She talks badly about people and then tries to play the victim. Any advice?
Re: Trouble with best friends wife
"Once I got a bath bomb that, once exploded, filled the tub with confetti. Little sharp metallic pieces of confetti. The product description said nothing about confetti. Oh look, there's a tiny, sharp metallic blue star stabbing me in the labia. HOW RELAXING. " - NoisyPenguin
I went through a time when I was very disapproving of H's BF's wife. After hanging a couple of times (or once and being forced @ an OOT wedding), I was done. Told H he could hang w/ his buddy (who I LOVE!), but I would no longer be involved in anything, i.e. NO COUPLE PLANS! Boys nights/ trips only- sorry.
They were divorced 2.5 years later, and now we have our buddy back! Of course he was still H's best friend, but they definitely didn't see each other as often once I refused to be involved in any couple activities.
Sorry, I know this probably doesn't really help, in that you don't want to be sideline cheering for your husband's friend to divorce his awful wife. I definitely think that you should have a talk with your husband and hopefully will come to the conclusion together that she is not worthy of ronjon's presence! When talking to him, make sure to point out this in no way prevents him from hanging w/ his buddy. If he's still having a hard time getting it, turn it around. Promise him that you will never encourage (force) him to hang out w/ a your friend's husband who sucks!
Even though it outwardly makes things a bit awkward/ possibly uncomfortable, you won't regret it. Put your foot down now, as I very highly doubt things will improve/ she will become a better person.
Seriously- I'd stand firm. He can't FORCE you to be around this woman. He simply can't. And there really is no slate to be wiped clean - whatever has happened int he past is going to continue. this woman is who she is. She's still going to lie and manipulate. That's not going to change. So ALL that will be accomplished is that a new "slate" is going to start to be filled....
~Benjamin Franklin
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