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how often do you get frg spam?
I'm new to this whole frg thing. There's no paid position equivalent in the air force, but H now is technically in an army unit, so I'm experiencing it for the first time.
Before xmas it seemed like some days I got 3 or 4 emails. They're less frequent now, but they still are kind of spammy. They apparently hassled H for my email address, so I don't think I can unsubscribe, but can I at least have the internal satisfaction of thinking this lady is nuts to be sending so many? Or is this totally normal, and every accepts the regular use of the delete function.
Also, is my complete lack of participation something that will get talked about behind my back? I've never been an active spouse, but that's mostly accepted in the AF. Is the army culture different?
Re: how often do you get frg spam?
Pretty much never. I've requested to be added to the emails to no avail. I get maybe one a month. Others get weekly updates.
I think she thinks I'm not a wife because my last name matches no one.
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I only know about frg things because of this board. I dont even know if his previous (or current) group had/has one. Although he was like a researcher/project manager/desk dude.
Maybe when he deploys for this job I'll hear from them? although I have no idea. (more likely because he is training with the Army? idk)
I changed my name
I get a least a couple a week reminding me of events or meetings. We have an active group. However, I had to sign a consent form before they were allowed to send emails to me.
It sounds like yours operates much differently. Definitely request that they knock it off if you don't want to receive them. I don't see why it would be different than any other email list. You should be allowed to unsubscribe.
For the record, I direct the FRG leaders emails directly to the spam folder.
If it's something important, it will come in an email from the ombudsman.
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Our FRO is great about not overloading us with worthless e-mails. I get a few reminders about upcoming meetings, but he also sends things like volunteer opportunities so I don't mind.
Since this woman works across the hall from H (I'm still not sure how this is a full time job, but whatever), she pestered him personally to give my email. There was initially a typo so I was blissfully unaware for the first few months until I found out she'd successfully pestered him into correcting it. That's why I think that unsubscribing wouldn't be successful. So, he consented for me :shakes fist: While he normally doesn't push me to be involved, I know he really wanted me to go to the ornament exchange at the general's house.
What's with this monthly meeting business? WTF needs to be discussed every month?
When H was deployed I got one a month, maybe. In the other three years, never. I've never been to a meeting or talked to anyone connected with it though.
Actually, I did try to do something online to get information from the FRG at his new unit but it kept coming up in error so I gave up.
We have a meeting about once a month, but it is more like a get together and play games kind of thing. We bowl, play poker, or just have lunch. Some of our ladies have workout groups or Bible study groups. The only time we have actual meeting where information about the unit is exchanged is pre-deployment, mid rotation, end of deployment and the middle of the training cycle.
Keep in mind, H's unit is a high tempo unit. Our FRG is more like a family/support group than a regular FRG. We rely on each other a lot and spend a lot of time together.
Don't feel pressured to keep receiving them just cause the lady was pushy. If your husband wants to consent to them, he can get them sent to his email. Our group currently has bi-monthly meetings. It really helps us to organize all our events. When it comes closer to the next deployment they will have them at least monthly.
We had a change in command recently and the new CO's wife was sending like 10 emails out a day!!! Drove me crazy.
She has mellowed out, but I am still not inclined to hang out at any of the spouse gatherings. I never have been though.
I'm still getting emails from our old unit. We left at the end of September but the FRSA left then too and there was a Change of Command at the company. I still can't believe they haven't updated their roster yet.
Also, I never went to any FRG meetings but was active in our Coffee group. No one ever said anything about my lack of participation with the FRG.
DH is army, active duty.
The current unit sends me an email about once a month. I wish it was more often, actually, because I feel horrendously uninformed and disconnected.
That being said, I have also experienced the opposite - getting 3-5 or more emails a day, often from the FRSA (the paid position) or from the FRG leader. Typically, these were redirected information about things happening on base - MWR events, traffic/road issues, youth services things, whatever else. Very occassionally (more often when DH was deployed) they would contain something specific to his unit or events for his unit.
These emails were not a big deal - the ones that were interesting to me, I paid attention to, the others I deleted. Few ever needed a response of any kind. I participated a moderate amount in the FRG, and no one seemed to take issue that I wasn't always available, and when I did make it out, they were quite friendly towards me. There were many spouses that never showed up when I did. I didn't notice any animosity towards them being discussed when I was around.
This is the first stateside location I've really been a part of, so the need to connect with other people who speak English is much diminished. I have friends who live in my neighborhood, people I've met through shared interests, and the idea of driving fairly far away just to socialize with people whose common demography is simply our spouse's employer... just not my thing.
Deployments here are completely different. They're generally just one or a few people going, to places they can travel commercially to, so there's no big need for 3rd party dissemination of info. If I lack information it's b/c I'm not supposed to know rather than no way of telling me. For his next deployment, his boss casually asked if I was going with him. Very different kind of office/job.
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