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UO Thursday
Re: UO Thursday
Probably more a whine than a UO, but I don't like that I can't get Dunkin' Donuts K-Cups anywhere but the store. Nearest one for me is in OKC, and I always forget to drop by there to pick some up. Blah.
Michele Bachmann placing second to last in the county she was born during the Iowa caucuses is a little amusing to me.
I will take this one step further and turn it into a FFFC: sometimes I'm glad when it's time for Connor to go to his dad's, because sometimes you just need a break. I enjoy having a few kid-free days sometimes. I love him and I miss him, but I miss pre-children life too.
If you think this is a UO/FFFC for bio moms, try having any sort of negative feelings about kids as a stepmom. Hoo boy. I often feel like if I'm anything less than ECSTATIC about SD spending time at our house, then I'm a terrible person. A lot of that is just me being hard on myself, but I think a lot of it is popular opinion/society. If you're a stepmom who is exhausted/occasionally annoyed by her step child/children, then you're probably a bad person. If you're a bio mom who complains about her kids, you're just exhausted because you have the hardest job in the world. Totally understandable.
(Note: I have enormous respect for all mothers - I hope to be a bio mom myself, soon. Also, I love my stepdaughter dearly. I just wish people understood how difficult it can be to be a step parent, too.)
Yup - McG has it exactly right. I think it was IPama that posted on here that her step kids were wearing her out - and I felt like she got ripped a brand new arse by some of the other nesties on here and honestly, I didn't see her vent as any different than a normal "I am a parent and my kids are driving me crazy" thread but it was not taken that way by some.
Let's just put it this way: KIDS ARE EXHAUSTING and can be irritating at times.
I missed this apparently.
I think step parents absolutely get frustrated and worn down too. I think there's pressure to cherish every second you have with your kids and stepkids, particularly if you have to share time with another parent. I wouldn't judge anyone for saying they were frustrated.
On the other hand, if Kevin complains about Connor's behavior, I definitely take that personally and sometimes get butthurt about it. Even though I rationally know I shouldn't, I can't help the emotional connection that complaining about his behavior is complaining about HIM and/or an attack on my parenting. When I step back I can see thats not what it is, because he has the same frustrations I do except adding in the uncertainty of boundaries and the fact that I have always been Connors primary caregiver so Connor still treats me as 'more' of a parent. Kids are hard, y'all.
This article made me feel so sad - poor girl, her hubby died on xmas day as well....
http://usnews.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/01/05/9968356-no-charges-for-teen-widow-who-killed-intruder
But then I was like - wait a minute, she is 18 and her husband was 58? WTF?
((This is why I am a bad person))
Well then call me a complete ass, because that's one of many things I side eye about this whole situation (to include breeding dogs as her income source).
Yikes! I didn't see that. I have to be very careful about the breeding dogs thing...one of my coworkers, who I LOVE breeds dogs. I have had to keep my lip zipped.
Does she live in a trailer, have 9 German Shepards, and a dirty yard? I think the visual from the news is the source of my side eyeing.
Holy crap! I didn't know her husband was 58! I feel horrible for her. Losing her husband and then having to shot a man trying to do harm to her and possibly her baby a within a matter of days.
I kinda thought the same thing when I first saw the story. I had just heard the bare bones about the story and automatically thought it probably happened in Oklahoma - sad.
WTF? Read more here....
http://www.maggiesnotebook.com/2012/01/sarah-shepard-mckinley-more-to-the-story-kenny-mckinley-family-member-suspects-so/
She shot the dog because it was having a siezure and assumed it had been poisoned. WHAT?
There is a whole lot of WTF with this whole story.
Yes. She was 18, him 58, living together for 3 years and married nov 28?
Whoa, what? Lived together three years? I can't get over the fact that the article insinuates that the baby daddy is really the intruder.
She moved in with a 55 year old when she was 15??? Now I'm seriously side-eyeing her parents.
I've been in a May-December relationship myself (which I now find totally embarassing, though it wasn't to that degree) so I can't judge that too harshly. I also could care less who her child's father is, what the niece thanks, etc.
BUT to let your minor child move in with her boyfriend, whether he's 19 or 69 gets a huge dose of judgment from me.
Well....if the father was the intrudor that she killed, that would be a huge red flag, IMO.
Yes. It screams much more to the story than a home invasion.
True---I wasn't thinking about it in that way. I just meant that I couldn't care less who she was sleeping with.
I want to know why it took 2 grown men 20 minutes to get through a trailer house door. That is one of the many things that doesn't make sense to me. I just love the national representation of my home town too! Confession: I know the intruder that wasn't shot.
ITA! Most days I am done before bedtime. Parenting is exhausting!
She barricaded the door with a couch?