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Question for my Jewish friends
The husband of a former colleague died a few days ago. They are Jewish. There is a service this afternoon at the temple, then shiva is scheduled at their home at various times today through Sunday.
I'm going to the service, and haven't made a decision about shiva yet because I don't know what it entails. Is it like a wake? Do you bring food or things for the family?
Re: Question for my Jewish friends
You can bring food but make sure it's kosher. Like, you can't make something and bring it. This is where it's appropriate to pick up something Kosher from the supermarket.
It's not like a wake because there is no body there. It's just in their house. It's a time just to be there for the family, show support, etc. People usually appreciate a shiva call (coming to the house). It's just a lot of eating and sitting around. But you don't have to stay long.
Shiva is wonderful, and it's considered a great blessing to go. It's just friends and family coming together for seven days, off and on, to think, talk, pray, cry etc. Bringing food is a great thing, just make sure it's kosher. If you don't know what to bring, fruit, nuts, cake, all that is kosher; meat well cooked (no dairy product cooked with the meat), no pork or shellfish.
I typically bring a huge fruit plate, a cake made with eggs but no milk, and a smoked beef brisket. A shrimp plate would be WRONG, as would a ham. lol.
Things I've seen at shiva that might be unfamiliar: the bereaved will often go shoeless; and all the mirrors in the house may be covered (both traditional). All the chair will generally be pushed to the walls, and I've been to some where there are no chairs, you just sit on pillows on the floor (depending on what branch/how orthodox they are).
This is all very helpful, and I passed these tips along to my other non-Jewish friends who were at the service.
I was going to dig out TSD's brisket recipe, but I think I'll stick with fruit and nuts instead!