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I've drugged myself with a sleeping pill. Just waiting for it to kick in. P is at bowling. He was a bit of an ass tonight. Just ignorant. So I'm kind of glad he is gone, but now I'm just moping.
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  • I love sleeping pills, haha.
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  • Sorry he was an ass. Not to excuse him but I'm sure you are both struggling today. Be kind to yourself and each other. I'm here catching up on Bones and enjoying the silence. 
  • The only time I've ever used drugs "recreationally" is when I've needed sleep. I love drugged sleep.

    I hope you get some rest tonight, Mo. 

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    I love pills. Sorry he was an ass. But, he probably doesn't know what to say and the way you feel everything anyone says is going to suck.

    Watch Jersey Shore tonight as you zone out. It won't help but you might get a laugh. We're watching Project Runway right now.

  • Thanks. I hate to complain, because it's unrealistic to think that he would be meeting my needs with 100% accuracy on something that neither one of us has dealt with before. And he's upset too, so I have to recognize that. I just hate that sometimes when I'm venting or thinking out loud, he's cutting me off to offer solutions. Dude, there ARE no solutions, so just shut up and be a sounding board.

    My issue is that the surgery center that I go to on Monday is the exact same building I go to for work, 3 days a week. And it's literally the first suite that you go past as you walk in the building. So now, 3 days a week for the rest of my employment with the hospital, I get to look at those doors and think, "Hey, that's where I got my D&C." There is literally no way for me to get to my testing site without passing that suite. I just don't want the reminder, especially first thing in the morning on Tuesday, the day that I go back to work from all this.

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  • I'm sorry that he was an ass. And even more sorry that you'll have to walk past surgery center so often, especially so soon afterwards.

     

    I'm pretty sure it's pronounced your mom's a moron and if you didn't have your name legally changed by the age of 22, so are you. Unless you're from another continent. -Groomz
  • Mo, I am just so sorry.
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  • I tend to be a fixer and look for practical ways to solve emotional problems.  Just know that he's trying to make it better because he loves you.
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  • Not to offer solutions, but is there any way to have your procedure somewhere else?

    Either way, that sucks.  

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    I tend to be a fixer and look for practical ways to solve emotional problems.  Just know that he's trying to make it better because he loves you.

    I know...I know. But you "fixers" can make a girl nutty sometimes. And of course, he gets his feelings hurt when I try to explain that I just need a listener.

    I tried to tell him that he should imagine himself pooping his pants in a restaurant. And every time he drives past that restaurant, he would have that memory of pooping his pants. There's just no way that you can stop thinking about something like that. Maybe not the best analogy, but it was the only thing I could come up with on short notice.

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  • Mr. Winged does the solve it thing too. I understand the frustration because even though I know it comes from a place of love, I get that same feeling too. And yeah, your concern is definitely warranted. 
  • The funny part is that my mom is a fixer too, and it drives me crazy. I feel you.
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  • Wendy, I don't think there is. My doc only goes within our hospital system. So there are a few campuses, but his is the labor and delivery hospital, while the next nearest one is over an hour away. I guess we could go there, but I don't really want to do that either- just seems like more trouble for P.

    Oh, and get this. I have to get an EKG tomorrow. So one more fvucking appt for all this. And what? I'm 31. If I have an abnormal EKG (which I won't), it's not as if they are going to send me to cath lab before I get a D&C. They'll do it anyway. It's just such bullchit.

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  • H is a fixer too, sometimes I just need to be allowed to feel man. It sucks but they mean well. Maybe it is good you are alone for a while and can head to a wonderful sleep.

    Sorry about the office location, that is really sucky.

  • Oh mo, I want to hug you.
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  • I do agree that he's just grasping for solutions to make the helpless bystander feeling go away. He wants to make some of it go away for you. 

    Why an EKG? 

  • The anesthesiologist requires it. Such BS. I'll be going under general anesthesia for the surgery, so I guess it's just his policy. I considered calling and fighting it. Mostly because I just want to go through a normal work day tomorrow and NOT think about this crap. But instead, they can only squeeze me in at 10:20 or 1:15. I took the 1:15 and I'll just go home afterwards.
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    Sorry he was an ass. Not to excuse him but I'm sure you are both struggling today. Be kind to yourself and each other. I'm here catching up on Bones and enjoying the silence. 

     

    I Love Bones!!!! =)<3<3

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    imagewingedbride:
    Sorry he was an ass. Not to excuse him but I'm sure you are both struggling today. Be kind to yourself and each other. I'm here catching up on Bones and enjoying the silence. 

     

    I Love Bones!!!! =)<3<3

    Really? WTF 

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  • I'm pretty sure she's not talking about the show. She just really, really, really loves bones. Femurs, metatarsals, scapulas. She loves them all, especially when you let her suck the marrow out. Mmm. Ulna marrow. 

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  • I'm watching Man, Woman, Wild. I hate this couple. The husband seems like the kind of guy that would hump you while looking in the mirror and say "you're welcome" when it's over.
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    I'm watching Man, Woman, Wild. I hate this couple. The husband seems like the kind of guy that would hump you while looking in the mirror and say "you're welcome" when it's over.

    At first I read this as him looking in the mirror and saying "you're welcome" to himself. I guess it's pretty much the same thing though. Heh.

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  • I'm sorry Mo, what an awful thing for both of you to go through.

    I am a "fixer" too. It really does come from a place of love. I've become aware enough of it that I can generally stop myself, but when someone I care about is hurting, I have this frantic feeling of needing to do something to make the hurt stop, it's hard to control sometimes.

    Hopefully you guys can find ways to support each other through this. I'm so sorry it's something you have to deal with. 

  • I am so sorry Mo.  I am also another fixer.  When I see someone that I care about hurting I want to try to offer answers.  I also tend to make pie for them...so, imagine i am making you a pie of your choice.
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