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*JustTheWayYouAre*
I saw your post below and was wondering how you are doing. Did you tell your H that you want a divorce? Have you met with/hired an attorney yet?
I am ready to tell my H and I've met with an attorney twice; however, I don't have the money to hire him . His retainer fee is $3500, which I'm told is not obsurd, but I just don't have that money. I told my dad today and asked him if he could loan the money to me, but he doesn't have it right now. I also mentioned it to my mom but she almost seemed unwilling to loan the money, but I don't think she has it anyway.
So... now I am not sure where to go from here. I want to get going on this, but without the money, I'm not sure that I can. My only other options are to borrow from my 401k or to see if I can take out a personal loan. This sucks 
Our Angel baby, lost at 6w6d on 6/10/08
Re: *JustTheWayYouAre*
Right before the holidays we were talking about divorce nearly every day and I was sure he knew that's what I wanted and I was certain that's what I wanted. But then we made it through the holidays with no fights and he has been super helpful lately. It's like I can see him trying to change so now I'm all on the fence again. ::sigh:: In my heart I know that I want out and that any changes he makes will be short term and in just a couple days, weeks, months, however long we will be right back to where we were.
I think I need to get my head to the same place my heart is and convince myself that if I do this it'll be okay. I know in my heart it will be but my head is overthinking? If that makes sense. At the moment I am preparing what I can on my own so I am more ready. I haven't contacted an attorney yet but that's my next step.
I didn't get a chance to respond to your post yesterday but I read it. I think you need to tell your H that you have been in touch with an attorney. I can't remember if you have or haven't told him at all that you want out. If you haven't I would do it soon. It takes a lot of weight off your shoulders once you say it outloud to the other person. Of course now I think my H thinks I'm just yanking his chain b/c so far I am all talk and no action.
And yeah you are right it does suck but just keep reminding yourself that you deserve to be happy.