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Painful intercourse - during and after
I've had this problem since I got pregnant with DS, he'll be 3 in May. Maybe had this earlier but, I'm not 100% positive.
Sex just plain hurts 95% of the time. During intercourse, my vaginal walls have this internal burning sensation which makes thrusting very uncomfortable. If we actually finish sex, I'm left with that same internal burning for quite some time afterwards.
On the rare occasion that I'm not experiencing pain during sex and I orgasm, the same pain begins immediately after and we're unable to finish.
At first, I figured it was a problem with lubrication so, we've tried various types of lube without any relief. We've tried different positions without any relief.
I've discussed this with my gyno and he wasn't able to figure out anything. We've since moved and my new gyno/ob hasn't been able to give me an answer yet.
Here is what I can tell you that I know:
- I have no history of STD's or any kind of vaginal infection
- My pap smears are normal
- DS was a c-section baby
- My mom has Interstitial Cystitis (bladder condition) and I have a risk of having it also. It's difficult to diagnose and can not have the procedure to diagnose until after DD is born. One of the side effects from the disease is painful intercourse.
- I don't have an allergy to sperm or latex
- I haven't had any kind of vaginal trauma
- I am young (mid-twenties)
- DH is of average size, width and length wise.
- DH is STD free
Just wondering if any one else is in the same boat. It's putting a damper on our sex life.
Thanks for reading!
Re: Painful intercourse - during and after
I've asked, she said there is nothing she can really do for me while pregnant. All of the standard exams and tests have come back normal.
You might have interstitial cystitis or another problem.
Omg! This is happing in my relationship right now!! We have only been married for about 4months and before then I always used the excuse "it just hurt bc we were using condoms." Well we are no longer using condoms and it burns like ***!! To the point of me almost crying everytime we gave sex. It's awful! I hate when all my girlfriends all talk about their great sex life and I have to sit there and act like sex is this wonderful thing even though I am in pain for at least a half hour afterwards!!
Anyways my DH and I went to gyno and she said this was normal that my body wasn't telling me "it's ok to get turned on." do everytime he enters you the bag walls will get tiny tears and swell and you'll get that burnt feeling. So she put me on meds called "Vagifem." it's a 12 week process and the pill is in an applicator like the ones for Monistat but the pill is tiny. So you insert into the vagina twice a week for 12 weeks. At thins point I'd rather try it and have great sex that 13th week!!
I reall hope this helps at all and please try to let me know what happens bc if something happens that works well for you I may want to try that too bc we seem to be on same boat with pretty same med history and I am young 20's!!
Goodluck!