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TheBump Post -- Douchey H
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LittleMissLulu:
Just wondering if anyone else is taking a month off after the baby is born from their, well, wifely duties? My husband was rather appalled when I mentioned taking some time off from wifely duties and asked that we work those 4 weeks I want off into our schedule before the baby is born. I think he's being a bit unfair because, really? I shouldn't have to go down on him right after having our first baby. We're going to be busy....But he thinks that I should just suck it up, so to speak.
Is anyone else taking some time off? I feel like such a *** of a wife right now. We keep a pretty tight schedule of my wifely duties and I just hate to change the schedule
Why? I'm confused. I like those things as much as DH, and would never look at them as a wifely "duty". I'm sure he's really psyched to know how much of a chore it is for you, and that you're planning a "vacation" from it. I would be hurt if I was your DH too.
Now, if I'm sick or in pain, that may change. But that's a given for both of us, birth or not.
Not sex. Blow jobs. I don't like them but he does, so we keep a schedule (once a week + holidays) and we stick to it. I guess I don't feel like I should have to suck his *** right after giving birth
But the response to win all responses:
This is crazy, I dont believe people think of it as a wifely duty, I like sex more then my husband probably and could do that and whatever else all the time. That being said im not worried about after the baby becasue my husband and I know that after giving birth that will be the last thing on our minds for a while though its never been talked about becasue I dont know why it would. FYI to all of you that wont do things like that, hate to tell you but they will find someone who does if they havent already. What that saying Be a cook in the kitchen and maid in the house and a whore in the bedroom..... something like that......... totally true and fun so try it
Re: TheBump Post -- Douchey H
I hate the assumption that if your man (bf, fiance, or husband) doesn't get enough of what he wants sexually, it's a given that he'll find some way to get it elsewhere. Whatever happened to committment? There's nowhere in any vows that I've seen where it tells you to be faithful to your spouse, except when he doesn't get enough blowjobs.
I read an entire article earlier this year that was devoted to telling women that if they don't give enough sex or blow jobs to their significant others then they will just cheat, like it's a fact of life and everyone's ok with it. When our boyfriends, fiances, and husbands are caught cheating, WE are supposed to take the blame? Disgusting. My husband was the one who showed the article to me and assured me that decent men aren't like that, and he definitely isn't one of them. It's sad to read things like this that take cheating so lightly and act like it's a man's right to do it. It makes me look around and wonder who of my girlfriends and relatives are being cheated on simply because they don't give enough blow jobs. It really doesn't put men in a favorable light when you hear things like this. Not every man wants to throw his relationship in the trash if he hasn't gotten a blow job in the past week.
That H is an a$sface. He and Coco the gorilla should get together.
yeah super creepy blech
someone should make a soap opera based off of the Nest... good grief!
This world scares me though - its not just the nest. Anyone see the article about the paramedic that raped a patient? She was unconscious and she woke up to him assaulting her. - - - then there's the woman who slept with her husbands friend - MIL who assaulted the pregnant lady - if a man doesn't get enough he'll cheat - proven fact...WTF!!!!!!!
I'm going to go crawl back into my hole and pretend I haven't exposed myself to the real world. I actually want to believe the fairy tale is true....
as my husband watches Despicable Me and slaps his face making the sound the little girl just did.... ah - so much better
Hi fuss! I'm a little sad that your suicidal bunny has disappeared.
Seriously killing me. Most would call this an epic fail on the church's part -- I call it a win.
Who the Freak schedules bj's? Or any kind of sexual encounter? And he's worried he may miss his appointment?
I give them both an F.