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Ok I Did it
I broke it off with Z and now feel worse than I already did about it. He is this sobbing mess right now. He said that he was starting to think I was the one but I sure fooled him. He said what I didn't know was that he has been hurt more times than he can count. He then forced me to answer questions as to why I can't be with him and what made me so unhappy being with him. He tried turning things around on me but I wouldn't let him and called him out on a few things. I told him that I was really sorry and that I really care about him but I finally just couldn't stick it out.
He is mad at me for not telling him sooner, like when I first started feeling this like in Oct. I explained I was in denial and was trying to force it to work thinking it was just me. I also explained I was trying to prove different than the other girls he dated after his friends wife gave me the warning while in NY to not hurt him like those girls.
Oh I feel like crying myself.
Re: Ok I Did it
(((hugs)))
Please try not to feel guilty about this. I know it's easier said than done, but you did what is best for you and DS. It's not your fault that Z isn't very good in relationships -- you stuck it out a lot longer than most, and hopefully he'll take something away from all of this.
You did the right thing, but i know it's not easy. Stay strong!
I know it sucks for now, but it will get better and you will feel so much better not having to force things to work. Also I think he's being a little overdramatic with the "hurt more times than he can count." Aren't you his only serious relationship since high school? We've all had break ups and moved on to live to tell the tale. So will he.
One thing I would suggest and others might disagree, but that if he tries to reach out "to talk" I'd nicely try not to engage. Something like "I think it's really important we have some space right now." I know it sounds really harsh, but in the end the cleaner the break, the better for all involved.
You did the right thing. He shouldn't call you out or make you feel bad...that is a serious character flaw, especially since it was a short lived romance. He sounds like he likes to play marytr
Relax this weekend and then regroup.
sorry...stupid tab is not the best for nesting and formating.
I don't really have any words, just hugs. Take care of yourself and DS.
Exactly... just because a relationship doesn't work doesn't mean someone has to be the bad guy... Your feelings changed and yes, while that might hurt him, it doesn't make you evil. It makes you human. Good for you for letting him go so he can find someone who will love him.
Take care of yourself this weekend and don't talk to him if he tries to engage... give yourself some space.
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Agreed. You did the right thing. Sorry it was hard but now you can discuss it with your counselor.
I don't know too much of your story (actually, any of your story, really) but I didn't have to read any more than this to know you did the absolute right thing. I'm sorry he's trying to manipulate you, but it sounds like you're standing strong. I agree with everyone else who said not to hesitate to block his number if need be.
Good for you for seeing what's right for you and your son and doing it!
Sorry, didn't read all the other replies (so I might be repeating), but just have to say that his response & reaction to this should help ensure you that you did the right thing.
When you finally get to THAT relationship, you won't have to convince one another, certainly not yourself, that it's right & good & where you should be.
Good job Jakesmama.