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Well hello. I feel like I've been gone forever.
I'm back in Canada. The move was depressing but otherwise very uneventful. BF came for Christmas and it was amazing. He fit in so well and my entire family loved him. He met EVERYONE in my extended family, and he did so well.
He left a week ago and we talk everyday. It'd even harder than I thought it would be with him being gone, but we are both so determined to make it work.
I don't have a job yet. I applied at a clothes store where I used to work and should hear about that soon, and then on the weekend my cousin is going to help me in applying for government jobs.
It really sucks to be home. It feels like I never left. My sister has "anxiety", so she isn't working and never leaves the house and is always complaining about her life, yet she does nothing to change it. I plan to have a serious hear to heart with my mom about her. I know it isn't necessarily my business, but I live here now too and my sister needs to get a life.
My best friend is quickly going to drive me away. She keeps questioning my relationship and saying I seem insecure and that I'm settling. Neither of these things are remotely true, and I don't why she seems to have a problem. She keeps telling me to not put my life on hold for him, which I'm not at all. It's all very rich coming from her considering her boyfriend went away for basic training for 5 months and I didn't say anything to her about moving on while he was gone, nor did I say anything when she moved across the country for his job. I don't have a problem with her doing either of these things, so I don't know why she is continuously judging and commenting on my situation.
My grandpa is dying. He's receiving palliative care starting today and we have no idea how long he has left. Could be tomorrow, could be 3 months.
I feel stuck already. I need a job so I can get out of the house everyday. I also need the money because I have an expensive year of travelling to see BF coming up. I miss him and my life in Scotland so much, and it feels like my life is right back where is was 2 years ago before I moved away.
Sorry this is such a novel. I just needed to get a few things off my chest. I'm sure everything will work out in the end, it just suuucks right now.
Re: Well hello. I feel like I've been gone forever.
Welcome back! I'm glad you and the BF are doing well. Long distance REALLY sucks, but it is doable if necessary. Try to keep your chin up and be grateful for skype, internet, and cellphones (imagine trying to do this when letters were the only method of communication!eek!) I'm sorry about your grandfather and I hope he doesn't suffer. *hugs* for you, you have a lot going on
Giving you many hugs. DH and I did the LDR thing. It sucked but we made the effort to talk everyday and we were always leaving each other messages on FB. Seems like that part is working well so far for you.
Sorry to here about your grandpa.
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Welcome back!
Sorry your friend is being so unsupportive and that your grandpa isn't doing well. Good luck on the job search, and I'm glad to hear the LDR is doing okay so far!
...And I'm (not-so-) secretly glad I'm not alone in the single-girl LDR club!
I'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa.
And your friend sounds like she's jealous that you're with a guy who loves you enough to try to make it work across an ocean (people who don't live it tend to really romanticize the international LDRs, in my experience).
I hope you find a job soon so you can start saving up for trips to Scotland!!
I've been away from the board for a while but lurk occasionally now that I'm back in the U.S., and I just wanted to let you know that I understand how difficult a transition like this can be. I can't say that I know exactly how you feel because our circumstances are different of course, but I definitely empathize.
When we moved back from DK, I came back home about 2 months before my DH moved over. Thankfully we had an end in sight, but it was tough during that time. I had been gone for two years, and all of my growth and change happened out of the eyes of my family and friends. It seemed like many of their lives had stayed exactly the same. It was difficult because I wanted to share my "new" self with them, but I knew they didn't want to hear me talk on and on about people and things they didn't know about.
I was unemployed and living with my parents, and ready to continue pushing forward with this amazing life I had come to know, a big part of which was my DH (who my friends had met, but did not know well since we were LD before I moved over). People said they were supportive of course, but I still did something way out of the norm for my group so it was difficult for them to relate.
The best advice I can give is to take it slow and give yourself time to adjust and decide what it is you want now, not just what you'll settle for.
I am glad that you had a great Christmas with your BF and family and that you back posting. I know LDR suck but I think that once you get a job it will make things a lot better. It will keep you busy and hopefully you can move out soon.
This. Although I wouldn't trade my relationship with my FI for anything in the world, I don't know how much longer I could have handled being away from him. Fortunately for me it's almost over : )
I've been in a LDR for 6 1/2 years now, so I know how hard it is. It gets easier, and harder, and easier, and harder - depending on how far away your next visit is. Take advantage of this time apart to develop a whole new understanding of your BF. All you can do in a LDR is talk...and talk and talk and talk and talk. So, during all that talking, you really learn so much about your SO.
I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa, I hope that he spends the rest of his time with you comfortable and happy. And as someone else on the job hunt - I feel the frustration! I hope that you get a job soon
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I'm so sorry to hear how hard it has been to get settled back home Meg.
I miss things about home on a daily basis but couldn't imagine going back right now for anything other than vacation.
I really hope that you find work soon so that you can get back onto a schedule and out of the house!
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